Discussion Questions 2 Age-appropriate Scenarios Infant

Module 2 Age-appropriate Scenarios (1)

9/7/2013

This activity will allow you to expand your knowledge of developmental stages.

Answer these questions for each of the 4 scenarios on the next few pages. Feel free to read other students responses, and elaborate or respond to previous posts.

Why might the child(ren) act this way?
What would you suggest?
How could this concept be explained?

1) Infant Scenario:

Jamal is almost 10 months old and just entering the separation anxiety stage—when older babies or young toddlers resist separating from their primary caregiver. This is a normal part of growth and development and a milestone in social-emotional development that shows Jamal’s attachment to his mother.

Jamal’s parents are concerned because he is now crying and clinging when his parents bring him in the morning. They are worried that something has happened to him since he didn’t act this way for the previous 4 months he has been at your center.

212 Comments

barbara Zitouni

7/6/2016 09:40:12 am

This completely normal. The parents needs to be reinsure too. It is important for the child to bring his favorite fluffy animal or a picture of their parents. The voice of the caregiver has to be soft , gentle to reinsure the child.
I advise parents keeping the same routine at home and daycare is key. Same time drop off and pick up will be important as well. Having a goodbye routine and promising they will see them later helps.

Ann Dollyn Diana Gnana Dhas

7/14/2016 08:31:44 pm

Just when you think the child's developed a little independence, the tantrums and tears come roaring back, usually thanks to a new stress such as a new sibling, going to school, an illness in the family, or moving to a different house. Fortunately, the seperation anxiety relapse usually lasts only a few weeks. "With a sibling, it's about attention,". "They worry that they come second now, that their parents are going to forget about them." In the case of a new school, the child knows that Mommy will come back but may nonetheless feel unsafe or uncertain without her. "Suddenly the child is in an unfamiliar place and isn't sure whom to trust. Plus, he has to share the attention of the teacher with all these other kids,". No wonder some of them get overwhelmed! let your child know it's okay to feel nervous.

Give your child a hug and say something like "I know that you're nervous. Let's think of another time you were scared but it was okay. Remember the first time in the pool?" You'll help show him that his feelings are normal—and that he'll be able to handle them. "We're often so proud of an autonomous child that we don't fully appreciate that the stepping-stone toward that autonomy involves a decent amount of dependence.

Give your child extra hugs and kisses. A quick "Bye, baby, see you this afternoon!" is ideal. "Prolonging the departure gives the child the idea that there's something to be afraid of," But here's the really tough part: Try not to let the sobbing lure you back. Reappearing after you've left only gives your child incentive to cry harder and longer next time.

Donelle Berendes link

7/20/2016 09:04:34 pm

Reassuring the parents such behavior and separation anxiety from their primary caregiver is a normal part of development and to be expected. Encouragement to maintain a regular routine at home as well as daycare is essential and will be important in building the child's trust.

gavriela

7/31/2016 04:18:15 pm

i strongly agree

Courtney Evans

8/4/2016 09:48:48 am

I agree with this statement.

alysa

8/9/2016 02:33:36 am

I agree with this statement and feel that it is important to reassure both the child and parents during a childs struggle with separation anxiety.

Sandra

8/28/2016 11:53:23 pm

I agree with the above statement.

Payam Khastkhodaei

9/12/2016 12:00:43 pm

I agree. This is very common behavior in infants because of separation anxiety. Once trust is built with the caregiver, then the child will slowly begin doing this less.

Rachel

9/14/2016 09:28:55 pm

I agree with this statement

Alexis

9/17/2016 12:26:52 pm

this is exactly what i would do!Let the parents feel okay with these changes.

Lisette

10/8/2016 03:01:56 pm

I strongly agree! Let the parents know that is normal and expected, that their baby is growing well.

Yesenia A.

11/9/2016 08:47:47 pm

I strongly agree.

Monica

12/10/2016 10:54:45 pm

I agree. You could also add that there will be improvements as the child builds relationship with you and trust you more

Megan Rockstad

3/27/2017 08:51:26 pm

I agree with this statement. Another helpful thing would be to interact with your child in the daycare for about 5 minutes before leaving.

Karima Torres

7/21/2016 06:55:22 pm

I would say this is completely normal and could be a response to change or small stresses in their daily lives.Their temperament can be easily affected by their sleep schedule, the food they eat,or the things they see. I would suggest the parent bring some sort of comfort object for the child. And I would also suggest exposure to new people and situations to increase fluidity in what they perceive as normal "safe" environments and situations.

Maddie

9/27/2016 07:44:12 pm

i agree

Arianna

7/6/2016 02:06:58 pm

this a normal developmental stage where the child begins to recognize who the primary provider is and has formed a firm bond. I would suggest setting up a goodbye ritual.

Audrey

7/6/2016 02:16:05 pm

The child is acting this way because the separation from his primary caregiver is a stressful situation for him, this is a normal stage in the development process. To explain it to his parents who are worried I would assure them that this is a natural part of him being this old. To help deal with this I would give him something to stimulate him with and would have the parent place him in the play area and stay talking for a small amount of time before leaving so that he would adjust to being on his own in the area.

Terry

7/20/2016 07:52:08 am

I strongly agree! This is totally normal through the age of 6. If a child is distracted by a activity, usually it doesn't last very long.

Amarily Keeton

7/6/2016 02:58:18 pm

the infant may have a change in routine or a new caregiver in the classroom that they may not be familiar with or a change at home and the child is not adjusted to it.

I would ask if the parent could stay with infant for a few minutes to comfort the them ask them questions like " did the infant sleep" " how was the infant's rest of the day at home yesterday."

The infant is learning how to detach from the parent and at times they become emotional and these issues may come up.

sheena

7/6/2016 04:48:56 pm

I would reassure his parents that his change in behavior is typical for Jamal's age and symbolises the strong bond he has developed with his mother, but presents as anxiety when he has to leave her. I would also explain that social interactions outside and seperate of his immediate family would help build his confidence away from mom and dad, and help him to feel more comfortable without them over time. During drop off I would be sure to be extra attentive and soothing, and have favorable distractions available upon his arrival.

Makayla

9/15/2016 10:25:04 am

I agree with this statement, offering a different activity can help keep the child's mind of the separation.

baneza

7/6/2016 08:12:57 pm

They are becoming more attached to the parent because it’s the stage where they staring to know who are the parents
I would suggest to have the child be more hold by other people such as family members and even have the child more on his on like on the floor

Felicia Kempf

7/6/2016 09:24:06 pm

I would say that the child could be acting differently because of some change that could have effected his stress level. If the previous day he had a negative experience at childcare, he may be extra hesitant to return. I would suggest that the child received some form of comfort from the staff at the daycare, allow the parent to leave, monitor the child and their progress throughout the day, and then inform the child's primary caregiver at pick-up time.This concept could be explained by a lack of comfort that the child can seek at daycare (outside of the staff). Perhaps they don't have a toy or belonging from home that they could use to comfort them.

Anastasia Smith

7/6/2016 10:00:38 pm

the child has separation anxiety becomes fearfulnonce the caregiver. i think giving the child a comfort toy or blanket.

Ayla

7/6/2016 10:14:40 pm

Why might the child(ren) act this way?
{This is a normal part of a child's developmet, showing that he is attached to his mother.}

What would you suggest?
{I would suggest to the parent that they stay a few moments longer to help him adjust to being at daycare, as well as not making their actual departure a big deal.}

How could this concept be explained?
{You could talk to the parent about the lack of understanding of object permanence and explain the normality of the situation.

lorene

7/7/2016 02:39:40 am

this is typical for this age to express anxiety separation. He used to be with his mother and he needs to adjust to a new situation. The child at this age realized that people and object still exist even when they are gone. It is important to listen to the child's anxiety. we could suggest to do a smooth transition for example to have the parent stay a little bit longer to help the child to feel more comfortable in that new environment. reassure the parent that it is typical for this age and progressively the child will adapt to it. We can explain to the parent the concept of object permanence. meaning the child is aware now when the mom is not here with him, she is somewhere else and this concept is scary for a baby. But he will get used to it when he will realize that the mom will always come back. but it is important that the separation is progressive. meaning starting with a short period of time and as much as possible with a routine.

Kelli

7/7/2016 11:07:34 am

Jamal is acting this way because for his age it is completely normal to have separation anxiety.
I would suggest that the parents not act sad or worried or stressed about the situation. Just to reassure Jamal calmly that they will be back to pick him up, just like every day. I would also suggest a goodbye routine.
The best way to explain this would be to talk to and communicate with Jamal's parents.

dani howard

7/8/2016 12:48:48 am

Jamal feels safe with his primary caregivers, it is normal for him to have anxiety. There are numerous reasons his behavior may be different all of a sudden. Typically if a child is becoming sick, has had recent developmental changes, or environmental stressors outside of daycare.
I would explain to the caregivers this information and make sure they know he will be cared for the same way and his behavior is normal.

Isatu Kamara

7/8/2016 08:00:44 pm

This is very typical of children. My son was experiencing separation anxiety few months ago. I went to Africa for 10 days and when and I came back, my son couldn't go anywhere without me. When I dropped him at daycare, he would cry bitterly and hanged on to me. I thought he was being maltreated at daycare. Come to find out later, he was suffering from separation anxiety.
1. Fear that his bother will leave him again
2. I would suggested that the mom assure Jamal's that she will be back or leave a picture or his favorite toy or maybe the mom should spend a day with Jamal to assure that she is back for good and she is not going anywhere.
3. The concept can be explained by the social development or attachment theory.

Avery Hinson

7/8/2016 10:25:22 pm

He feels safe with his primary caregivers.He could have other environmental stressors outside of daycare.
I would have a talk with his parents to make sure everything at home is alright.

Katie E

7/9/2016 08:41:55 am

I would first acknowledge the parents and affirm them for being advocates for their son. I would then let them know that developmentally, this response is age-appropriate and expected. I would work with the parent to solidify a transition plan if the parents feel it would be appropriate and be open to any requests the parents have or any further concerns. I might refer them to a website showing developmental milestones.

Chelsey

7/9/2016 09:45:09 am

I would reassure the parents that Jamal is acting this way only because he has reached a normal stage in development. He is showing his understanding and preference to be with his primary caregiver. I would let the parents know that this can be explained by the fact that he is developing normally. I would suggest to the parents that they are reassuring in their decision to leave Jamal in my care and help distract him with something that he enjoys doing.

Heather

7/10/2016 10:42:09 am

Talk to the parents about the normal stage of development that could be causing this. You should also ask if there has been achange in the child's life that could be causing it.

Kyann

7/10/2016 03:16:22 pm

Assure the parents that Jamal is a perfectly normal and healthy child by showing this type of emotion. He is growing at the perfect rate and is now able to show his attachment to his parents. I would explain this as best as possible and try to distract him while his parents leave.

Kylie

7/10/2016 03:50:44 pm

Why might the child(ren) act this way?
The child may act this way because there has been changes at home, however this is a normal stage that kids experince

2.What would you suggest?
I would have the parents and myself reassure that he will be being picked up later that day.

3.How could this concept be explained?
this concept can be explained by talking to the parents and having them reassure themselves that dropping of their child is a safe decision and that he will be well taken care of and in the mean time give the child a distraction to takes its attention of his parents

Olivia

7/10/2016 05:31:59 pm

He is attached to his primary caregiver, and it is completely normal. I would try to explain it as best as possible to his parents.

Kelsey

7/10/2016 08:09:18 pm

The child may act this way because of the grown attachment to their primary care giver. I would assure his parents that it is completely normal and just shows a stronger bond has developed between him and his parents.

Parisa

7/10/2016 08:31:49 pm

Let the parent know this is normal for his age to get anxious when separating from his primary care. Talk to the child in a kind voice and let him know his parents coming to pick him up later, let him to say goodbye and provide him toys and activities we know he would like.

Panchu Modi

7/10/2016 11:19:21 pm

child at this age starts recognising their parents and develope a special bond but crying is just a developemental stage.

Zehra

7/11/2016 04:48:43 pm

It is totally normal and healthy behavior from the child - bonding with caregiver was more stronger than the parents due to care and love given in his early age - Now parents should continue giving love, take him for social gathering which always helps to forget old memories until it becomes routine for the kid.

Hailey

7/11/2016 09:54:15 pm

Children at this age recognize that their parents are leaving them and developing a special bond with their parents. I would recommend telling the parents to talk with their child, reassure that they will be back soon, and make sure there is a consistent routine. The kids need to be coming in every day to establish that parents will return and that going to the center is just what they do.

reziwanguli malike

7/12/2016 10:06:48 am

Tess

7/12/2016 10:54:24 am

I would explain that it is normal at this point in development for Jamal to prefer to be with his parents and the a comfort item from home could be brought to school to ease his transition. I would focus on working on my own bond with Jamal so that he would be happy to come play at school.

Rachel Hardin link

7/12/2016 02:31:27 pm

I would assure the parents that the child is doing what is normal for children at his age, and that it normal for the child to have an attachment to their primary caregiver. I would suggest to the parents that they sends the child a comfort animal or blanket, so that when the parents say goodbye they can offer e a distraction. I would say that could be explained by the fact that Jamal getting upset is normal and almost all babies his age have the same issue at drop off.

Jausenta Grothen

7/12/2016 08:29:14 pm

JaMal could be afraid,there could be changes at home or even at the center he is not used to. I would suggest creating a better bond with Jamal and helping him feel at ease at the center. I would explain that most children go through this especially when they aren't away from parents very often. It's okay to sit and wait for your child to be comfortable.

Tina

7/13/2016 05:41:48 pm

When your baby is about 7 to 9 months old, wariness of strangers and separation anxiety may start kicking in. In a way, it's good news: Being worried about strangers signals that your baby has made a big leap in thinking and understanding.

samantha

7/13/2016 07:05:42 pm

simegn

10/9/2016 07:51:06 pm

children act this way because they have already formed an attachment with and trust with their primary care givers at this age. It is also very common to have such relapses and the best strategy to help the child will be reassurance.

Grace

7/13/2016 10:39:39 pm

They are just at a developmental stage where the child is recognizing who his or her are primary caregiver's are, i would explain that it is perfectly normal during this stage of developmental growth for the child to act this way. I would suggest the parent giving them a comfort animal or blanket or special toy to keep them occupied while they are away. I would explain the concept that the baby is aware of when his or her mom or dad is not present but can now grasp the concept that his or her caregiver will always comeback which can help deepen and build trust bonds between the child and their parent or caregiver.

Christine Hatfield

7/14/2016 02:35:35 pm

When a child has reached a certain age they start to realize the effect when they have to leave there primary caregiver. It is a normal process in child development so I would just explain to the parents that he is just processing being away from them and is sad.

Kailee

7/14/2016 11:13:29 pm

This is just normal attachment anxiety. Because he is at this age now he is understanding and able to voice that he wants his primary caregiver. I would explain that this is a normal stage that most all kids go thru if they are developing healthily.

Diana

7/16/2016 11:39:34 am

this a normal developmental stage where the child begins to recognize who the primary provider is and has formed a firm bond. I would suggest setting up a goodbye ritual.

Panchu Modi

7/16/2016 11:50:24 am

I agree that this is a normal developmental stage. Child has started to recognise his parents and has developed a firm bond.

Kerry

7/16/2016 08:26:33 pm

The child is developing a normal response to separation anxiety. I would comfort the child and reassure the parent this is a normal age appropriate behavior and that the child does fine as a few moments pass and "see you laters" are said :)

krystal

7/16/2016 10:01:14 pm

the child is having separation anxiety which is very common for his age as a caregiver I can try to comfort him and create an environment of stability

Michelle

7/17/2016 11:02:37 am

Jamal is experiencing separation anxiety which is normal and expected for his age. He has developed a healthy attachment to his primary caregivers.
I would acknowledge the parents' concern and show understanding of how difficult it is to see our children upset. I would suggest explaining this concept to his caregivers in a few ways, sharing my own experiences, providing them with documentation or a helpful video explaining healthy, normal separation anxiety. I would ensure a loving and caring response in accepting Jamal into the classroom and give him extra care and space to express his emotions.

Laurie

7/17/2016 07:13:59 pm

Why might the child(ren) act this way?
-The child is growing and more and more realising their attachment to the primary caregiver.

What would you suggest?
Invite parent to stay fora few minutes, play with child, comfort and reassure the child. Encourage the parents that this is a normal part of development and that they will be alright.

How could this concept be explained?
- Explain that this is a normal part of growth and to keep the consistency of coming to the centre.

Andrea

7/17/2016 11:31:16 pm

The child is acting this way because the child has reached the stage in his social-emotional development where he has a strong attachment to his mother and does not want to be separated from her.
I would explain to the parents that this is normal behavior at this age, and it is actually a positive milestone in the child's life that shows that he is developing normally in the social-emotional domain. I would tell them that he will eventually outgrow this separation anxiety stage so that they don't have to worry about it. I would say that short, clear goodbyes are best, even if the child is clinging and crying. I would try to take to child and comfort him after the mother says goodbye to him, and help the child find something else to occupy his attention.
This concept could be explained by giving the parents information about the social-emotional developmental changes that occur during the later infant stage.

Tsai-Ying Yang

7/18/2016 08:15:01 am

This reaction is very normal to this kid, because he is turning social-emotional development, and it is also because the child has never left the primary caregiver, and it is just nervous for him. I will suggest the parents to stay with child to explore the new area with him and then later on, let him play by himself, so he will soon let go off the parents.

Korissa

7/18/2016 08:46:31 am

As said in the prompt, Jamal is having a hard time separating from his mother because of a typical milestone in development that is appropriate for his age- he has developed a strong connection to his primary caregiver and is struggling to let go at drop off.

With new parents, this milestone can be a tough one because no mother likes to hear their child cry, much less be the cause of that unhappiness. In the case of this family, I would explain to them the process that their child is going through at this point in his development and I would assure them that it is not only normal, but it is actually a good thing. Some ways I might encourage the family to make it through this milestone is by stressing consistency. With this milestone, a child can learn a substantial skill- manipulation. While struggling with separation, the family can into a habit of sticking around for too long and can end up stretching out the separation and making it harder on themselves and their child. I would communicate with the families a plan to saying goodbye to their child- extra hugs and kisses, coming in a little earlier to plan for the harder separation, and finding tools that make it easier for the child. After coming up with a morning ritual for drop offs, I would continue encouraging the family to be consistent so that their child can make it through this transitional milestone as smoothly as possible in a way that benefits their development of trust.

Taylor

7/18/2016 07:38:59 pm

Assure the parents that this is perfectly normal at his stage of development. In fact it's a good sign because it shows he is mentally right on track. Suggest that he brings a small comfort item to help ease through the transition.as well as creating a ritual so the child feels comfortable

Rachel

7/19/2016 07:59:12 am

Jamal's separation anxiety shows that he has reached a developmental milestone. I would suggest that the family calmly continue their goodbye routine while I care for and redirect Jamal. I would assure the family that Jamal's separation anxiety is completely normal and expected at his age. I would also provide the family with information surrounding this stage in development.

leixin wang

7/19/2016 12:38:40 pm

childlren could be acting differently because of some change that could have effected his stress level. I would suggest that the child received some form of comfort from the staff at the daycare, allow the parent to leave, monitor the child and their progress throughout the day, and then inform the child's primary caregiver at pick-up time.

Charles Bolinger Jr.

7/19/2016 03:00:24 pm

This behavior is normal in the development process. It shows that the child has built a strong bond with the primary caregiver and it is totally normal in this stage of development. A suggestion for the parents might be to adhere to a strict routine of bringing the child in at the same time and leaving to build a routine that they can become accustom to. As far as the what you can tell the parents is that it is a common response at this stage in their development and that many of the other kids are doing the same thing.

Kayla

7/19/2016 03:23:37 pm

They are learning who mommy and daddy are, being dropped off at school with teachers is not the same. I would recommend staying for a couple minutes and playing and letting them warm up to the classroom, noise and toys. It is normal at this age because of all the new milestones they are reaching. Just make sure to to make the parents understand as well.

ELLIE A BRUNSON

7/19/2016 07:02:42 pm

A child might act this way because it is a normal stage in development.
I would suggest the parent to stay for a few minutes and be with the child while they calm down and get engaged with an activity or toy.
I would explain to the parents that this is totally normal for this age and not to worry.

Sarah Cristofono

7/19/2016 08:35:58 pm

This is a normal stage of development. All children become attached to there primary care givers , and yeah at first they are happy because its all brand new and fun but then after a while they start to get bored with it like most children and they decied that they do not want to do that same thing anymore and want there parents , or who ever is there caregiver. It does not cause a alarm.

Taylor Racicot

7/20/2016 01:42:08 pm

1.Why might the child(ren) act this way?
-This is a normal phase for children who have strong bonds with their primary caregiver(s)
2.What would you suggest?
-Setting up a routine for each time its necessary to say goodbye, and stick to the routine. It's not helpful to prolong the situation.
3.How could this concept be explained?
-That it's very normal and it doesn't mean that anything negative has happened. Parents need to stick tot he routine and not "give-in" to the crying child because that can be counter productive and a mutual trust needs to be maintained.

Gena

7/20/2016 07:28:01 pm

It is normal for a child to go through separation anxiety, and you should explain the normalcy of this behavior as a part of their behavioral process. Explain they must finally realize who their parents are and when they are or are't around then suggest having the parents bring a familiar/favorite toy. Let them know they will get used to the routine over time, and also let the chid know you understand their feelings and try to reassure both the parent and child that it will be okay.

Brittany Fry

7/21/2016 10:02:32 pm

I would reassure the parents that this is normal in the development of their child. Talking to the child and reassuring them that the changes will get better over time will help tremendously on the effects on their anxiety.

whitney s

7/22/2016 02:33:45 pm

Parents need to be reminded that separation anxiety isa phase and reassured that this type of behavior is normal.

lulu wang

7/22/2016 10:28:07 pm

1.Why might the child(ren) act this way?
Because infants by age 4 months, they didn't shows affections for his or her caregivers. But by age 6 to 9 months, they start to recognize familiar people. It's a milestone that Jamal is taking.

2.What would you suggest?
I will give Jamal a big hug, and tell him we are at school now, we have lots of friends here, you will have a good day with us. Mama and Daddy will go to work, but they will come back soon to pick up you. Then ask give parents a good bye kiss. After parents leave, comfort and distract his attention by a toy or friend that he interesting.
3.How could this concept be explained?
I will tell the parents that it is normal for your son, because it is a milestone he is taking. Actually we should happy for him, Because he start to know and share a strong bond with parents who take care for him day after day

Alyssa

7/23/2016 11:41:09 am

Why might the child(ren) act this way?
Jamal is acting this way because he is attached to his primary caregiver who would be his parents and doesn't want to leave them. All children realize at some age who their primary caregiver is and at that time will become more attached and not want to leave.

What would you suggest?
I would suggest the parents hugging their child giving them love while reassuring them that they will be back later after that have a fun day at their center.

How could this concept be explained?
It can be explained by it is totally normal. Every child goes through this stage at some point in their early stages of life.

Lindsie Hicks-Moore

7/23/2016 04:20:41 pm

Why might the child act this way?
Most children that age who are cared for by loving parents will act out this way to a new environment for which they are not comfortable with. It is not an uncommon issue. There are certain ways to help prepare a child to ease some of the separation anxiety.

What would you suggest?
I would suggest having the parents ease the way into the drop off. Talk more about the childcare at home and on the way to the center to help reassure and support the child. I would give it a little more time for the child to adjust. Communicate with family and try to also show concerning and understanding to the parents.

How can it be explained?
Just by reassuring the parents and let them know that this is normal behavior for most children. Have the parents stick around a little more. Make it a fun environment with positive distractions as the baby arrives.

yana

7/24/2016 09:36:15 am

This is normal because at that age the child is understanding who is who and thinks the parent is leaving him. The parent when coming to drop of the child at a daycare should stay with the child and make the transaction better and not to make a really big scene when leaving. Try to make the parents understand and tell them that its normal because the child knows who the caregiver is and spends most of the time there

krystal

7/24/2016 02:04:43 pm

This is normal because every child goes through this phase. parents need to be reassured that this is a normal behavior.

Ieisha McIntyre

7/25/2016 12:57:51 pm

I would explain to the parents that Jamal is in the separation anxiety phase. I would reward the primary caregiver by saying that he clearly has a good connection and bond with you. And I would suggest that the parents brings pictures of themselves, a comforting toy and or blanket. I would also make sure to remind the parents to keep their routine normal at home and that it is important in order to build trust.

Michael

7/25/2016 02:35:47 pm

1. Jamal is acting this way because he has entered the separation anxiety stage. It is normal and healthy, meaning he has formed a strong attachment to his mother.
2. I would suggest making drop-offs quick so that we could get Jamal engaged in an activity and distract him.
3. I would explain this to the parents by first acknowledging how normal it is, and that actually it's a great sign. I would also explain that making drop-offs fast will help Jamal as he can more quickly move on to something else.

Carlie Core

7/26/2016 10:00:54 am

Seperation anxiety stage is completely normal for a child of that age. It shows that he has an attachment to his mother.

Redirection would be a good idea. Say quick goodbyes and then distract Jamal with an activity while his parents leave.

I would explain that this stage is completely normal to his parents and getting him engaged in an activity while they leave is something that may help.

Hannah Downey

7/26/2016 02:42:56 pm

the child is acting this way because being seperated from a parent can be a stress inducing situation.
i would suggest dropping him off at a consitant time and making sure that the caregiver has a distracting activity ready for him when he arrives to rid his attention from his parent.
this can be explained because like tantrums, seperation anxiety doesnt have to happen everyday for it to still be an issue in the childs life. up until around 6 years of age it is completely normal to see some seperation anxiety from the child.

sarah

7/26/2016 08:01:34 pm

The child may act that way as a signal of a new stress that has entered their life, maybe something new happening at home like a move or a new sibling, or maybe something to do with school like a difficult interaction with another child. There is even the possibility that the so called "honeymoon" phase of them liking school is over and the tantrums have returned, which is normal also. I would suggest making drop offs quick with no prolonged goodbyes or parent coddling as it would only make it worse, then immediate distraction of the child with a toy or book or whatever activity is happening in the classroom, and then just keep working with them until the tantrums go away again. I would explain it like this; sometimes children go through what is called a honeymoon phase where they really enjoy school, and then that's over and they decide they don't like being away from mom/dad, and they go back and forth. It's a normal part of developing independence. Or if it is something at home that is going on, I will explain that sometimes new situations can make children nervous and since they have so much anxiety built up being separated from their primary caregiver will be much harder than normal but it should go away after they are used to the new situation.

Rachel

7/27/2016 11:30:13 pm

The child might act this way simply because of separation anxiety, which is totally normal.
I would suggest reassuring the parents first of all. Then I would suggest Jamal bring a special blanket or stuffed animal that helps him to feel secure when his mom leaves.
This could be explained simply that it s just a milestone that every child will reach. Although some children react more than others, its something every child and primary caregiver must go through.

Alexandra LeClerc

7/28/2016 10:15:44 am

We usually tell families that this a normal part of childhood development. We often talk about this during our back to school night because most of our parents are stay at home mom's. The children in our care often demonstrate this behavior in the beginning of the school year.

Kathryn Starr

7/28/2016 09:44:30 pm

Why might the child(ren) act this way?
What would you suggest?
How could this concept be explained?

It is apart of growing up. Some children go through, while others may not. Usually happens when there is a new stressor in their life. Could be just about anything, something small as losing their stuffed animal or a big change like a new home. I would suggest to the parent to bring a photo of the family, toy, or blanket from home so that they can have familiarity with them while they are at school. To have constant drop off schedule. Have the parents remind the child they will be back to pick them up. The caregiver needs to be sensitive of this stage. To use soft tone and validate what they are feeling. You could explain the parent that it is completely normal for their child to go through this. Normally happens when new stress happens.

Amanda Flores

7/29/2016 02:39:31 pm

This might be happening due to an outside stress or something new in the classroom.

I suggest a final hug and goodbye from the parent and letting the child be upset and having the caregiver comfort them.

I would explain to the parents that this is normal for a lot of children and we will try to continue to keep a similar routine throughout the day in order to keep the child comfortable.

Maggie

7/29/2016 07:04:59 pm

1. Jamal is entering the separation anxiety stage of development and it is completely normal and healthy. He is indicating the formation of a strong attachment to his mother.
2. I would suggest the parents stay a few moments longer at drop-off time to help him to adjust and if they can not then I would engage Jamal in an activity or special project to distract him and try to bring him into the class.
3. I would communicate with the parents. First I would make sure they understand how normal this sort of behavior is and that it is actually a great sign he is developing. If the parents had questions then I would find resources for them and maybe even partner with another parent who may have just recently gone through the same developmental shift with their child so the parent feels supported.

Michelle Park

7/29/2016 10:44:40 pm

Jamal is normal since he is in the separation anxiety stage. I would suggest his teacher be more sweet to him when he arrives and distract him. and I would explain to his parents that this is a normal stage for healthy babies and not too worry about it.

Syeda

7/30/2016 08:16:06 am

They are becoming more attached to the parent because it’s the stage where they staring to know who are the parents

Aly

7/30/2016 02:18:43 pm

This is completely normal. As a younger infant, the child doesn't fully comprehend the fact of a parent leaving. Once they hit a certain again, usually around 10 months, they start to realize their parents are gone. It is best to have a simple goodbye routine rather than drag it out and make it a bigger deal than it is. It gives the child a reason to worry that you won't be coming back. It needs to be a routine and the child needs to be reassured that it is ok and you will be back.

Emily

7/31/2016 03:36:11 pm

This is normal at this age children want to be with the person they spend most of there time with ...the parents in most cases. I would suggest for the parents to send Jamal to the daycare with his favorite toy or blanky to keep him calm

Jessica Hernandez

7/31/2016 04:50:02 pm

It's completely normal as the children become more attached to their parent and don't realized that fact that they have to leave for couple hours.

Kashmira

7/31/2016 11:22:56 pm

Why might the child(ren) act this way?
Jamal is acting this way because he is now able to experience separation from his mother. Separation anxiety can happen at any age during the early years.

What would you suggest?
It would be good idea to maybe talk to the teacher to see how Jamal behaves once the parents are out of the class. Chances are he could be playing happily the rest of the day. Just the drop off at the daycare is stressful for him. Moreover it would be good to check if the caretaker at the daycare keep changing. Inconsistency may also lead to a change in behaviour.

How could this concept be explained?
Separation anxiety is common amongst kids. It becomes stressful for them to be away from their primary caregivers because they are so attached to them.

Mikaela

8/1/2016 12:21:58 pm

It's completely normal and I would just get the kid interested in something there so that they can leave without getting a upset

Allison Lake

8/1/2016 12:55:30 pm

The child could be growing and realizing that mom is leaving. I would suggest bringing stuffed animals so they feel comfortable when the parents leave. And for explaining why the child all the sudden started crying I would tell them it's mainly because they are starting to recognize that you are leaving, but it only happens for a few minutes

zoe brown

8/1/2016 08:20:04 pm

not use to the envierment or teacher
show the child the fun things to do or play with and get their mind off mom or dad leaving
quick hugs and kisses see you soon

Sridevi Rajagopalan

8/2/2016 12:35:55 pm

Jamal is behaving this way because he shows attachment to his parents and want to be in a comfort trust worthy environment.

I would explain to his parents that this behavior is totally normal for his age and he is seeing other children crying due to separation anxiety. As he gets adjusted to the new children in the environment, and as he sees them getting comfortable, he would develop further trust in care givers that they are here to help and support him all day through and his mom will definitely come back for him every day. It is an emotional challenge for him at this age and was a part of social development. He will learn eventually to over come the anxiety with good care and emotional support. He might need extra hugs,holds, kisses, comfort from care giver until he calms down. This might take days to even weeks and is obsolutely normal in his development.

Becky

8/2/2016 07:26:47 pm

I would reassure the family that this behavior, while tough for the family, is typical for children of this age and explain why it happens. I also would explain what we can do to help ease the family's anxiety in the situation. One thing we do is have a family picture or collage of families for our children and talk them through the transition. We also encourage families to take a few extra minutes at drop off and also call back to check in on their child.

Tashayla McQueen

8/3/2016 02:04:26 pm

I would explain to the parent that this is normal, i will also allow the parent a few extra minutes at drop off to say good bye. I will remind the parent that they can call at anytime to check on their child. Comfort and communication is key.

Somporn Osborn

8/4/2016 01:35:21 pm

The baby can do that because them can change and try to learn new and the parent can try to understand and don't worries about that problem.

Sarah Jimenez

8/4/2016 10:54:06 pm

The child could be reacting this way due to normal developmental stage where he is feeling the intensity of separation anxiety which is very normal part of a 10 month olds development. It would be important to explain this to the parents and listen to their concerns then reassure them that this stage will pass soon. Keeping a calm and controlled voice and manner with the child will help ease the situation and making sure the routine is kept will also help them to feel safe and confident with what will happen when they leave their parents.

Annalisa Willette

8/4/2016 11:08:19 pm

children go through phases like this all the way up through when they start kindergarten, any changes in routine or an unusual stress can set it off and it's completely normal

Aubrey Thomson

8/6/2016 04:07:04 pm

I would explain that this is completely normal behavior for his age. There is a natural period of time where a child has seperation anxiety because of the healthy and close bond he has developed with you, his parents. Try not to worry because it will get better and we always reassure him that you wioll return and offer hugs and other options to express his feelings like books, art, and one on one time. I would \suggest attemoting to distract him with a fun activity when you are ready to leave and to leave when he is not watching you or will be less aware of you leaving.

Michelle D Larsen

8/8/2016 04:09:45 pm

Jamal could be experiencing a normal stage of separation distress or other factors could be at play, such as changes in schedules at home, or a new sibling. I would reassure the parents that the stage is normal and can be monitored to see if it improves. Some comfort could be given during the transition with a favorite toy or a consistent routine. The explanation could be that the child is beginning to become more attached to his primary caregiver and distinguishes when other people are around.

Angela Bockman

8/8/2016 10:30:47 pm

A child can go bnack and forth with this situation. One day or week, the child may cry or hold onto your leg so you cant leave. Might throw a tantrum or scream or even hit. Then one day or week, they may just give you a hug and kiss and wave goodbye. It may continue like this, the back and forth, but eventually as they get older, it will gradually change. My son is 4 and has been in the same childcare for the last year and a half and he still has his emotional days as I call them, more than his good days.

alysa

8/9/2016 02:35:57 am

I believe that it is very important to reassure the parent however possible that what their child is going through is normal. Offer reassuring words and research as well if you think it would bring the parent more peace of mind. Also remaining calm and steadfast in your love and care of said child through their time of struggle with separation anxiety is also of the utmost importance.

Jasleen Aulakh

8/9/2016 01:02:23 pm

As mentioned in the description, Jamal is most likely acting this way since he is reaching that stage in his social-emotional development in which he experiences separation anxiety. I would assure the parents that this is completely normal behavior for a child who is Jamal's age. It doesn't have anything to do with Jamal's personal behavior but rather shows a positive direction in his development. I would further explain to them that it is healthy for Jamal to show these emotions because that ensure he is developing a sense of security and trust. Children should be able to tell their caretakers and parents apart from strangers. Therefore, this stage in Jamal's development is crucial.

brandi zutter

8/9/2016 04:46:24 pm

the child is just missing his parents. having a caring teacher that will hold and comfort him is key. have parents bring a "security blanket" with the child to help sooth them.

Matthew Valente

8/9/2016 05:31:05 pm

This is extremely normal behavior. One way to deal with this is to continue building a relationship with the child and making school a more normal and less stressful environment. Also bringing some sort of toy from home or having pictures of parents may help. It is also important to explain to the parents that this is not unusual behavior.

Meenal Bhangria

8/9/2016 09:32:50 pm

Q: Why might the child(ren) act this way?
A: This is due to separation anxiety. This is a normal behavior.

Q: What would you suggest?
A: I would suggest to have the separation gradually. I mean if the new caregiver can overlap her time with outgoing caregiver, so that it will not be a surprise for the child.

Q: How could this concept be explained?
A: As kids get attached to the caregiver over the period of time, it is OKAY to have that anxiety. The child would take its sweet time to get attached to the new caregiver.

Wubayehu worku

8/10/2016 10:56:55 am

this normal for a child like Jamal. He will get over it when he gets older.

Deja

8/10/2016 02:51:03 pm

A child reacting this was is completely normal when they are use to staying home with mom/dad or if they are switching childcares. A child might need a period of time where the parents stay with them at the center so they can know it is safe. This wont stop the crying at drop off but it is essential when building trust with your child. Talking to the child in reassurance that they are safe and distracting them with a work will help build the relationship between them and their care giver.

Taylor

8/10/2016 05:30:18 pm

This behavior is completely normal. I would let them know after a couple of weeks they will be running into the classroom. It takes time for the child to get use to the environment and also all these new people.

Keaton

8/11/2016 02:59:44 pm

Separation anxiety is very common at that age. If their behavior upon leaving them grew worse and worse; I would begin to take them a bit earlier and allow them to get comfortable. I would also be reiterating the fact that this is how it is going to be for a while and comfort them while also teaching them that school will be a similar situation and they will need to learn how to be apart.

Mary

8/13/2016 11:45:18 am

As a child's relationship gets stronger with their primary caregiver they have a harder time seperating from them and wanting to leave them. Assure the parents its normal behavior. They could bring a favorite stuffed animal or picture to remind them of home. Lots of love and reassurance.

Karaden Marquette

8/13/2016 12:28:06 pm

This is because the child is just starting to realize that there is a difference between them and the people around them (ie that they are separate). It is a typical part of child development and shows that they have a strong attachment to the primary caregivers. I would suggest to the parents to considerate of this and address the fear and anxiety with love and affection. Giving extra reassurance that the parent will return by being regular in the schedule and saying things like "I will be back after you have snack, or lunch, etc. Also a comfort item can help as well such as a teddy bear. Being extra loving and reassuring while addressing the fears of the child is important for the teacher.

Keigan

8/13/2016 02:14:58 pm

Why might the child(ren) act this way? It is completely normal to go through periods of differing attachment as the child is learning independence and trust.
What would you suggest? I would suggest affirmation from both the parent and the caregiver that the parents will be back and that they love them, etc. Bringing a blanket or a stuffed animal may be beneficial.
How could this concept be explained? The child is experiencing growth and needs to be reassured in the relationship with the parents.

Adelle Goettel

8/13/2016 08:13:03 pm

Caregiver should assure parents that this behavior change is perfectly normal and is in fact the development of another milestone. Suggest parents respond calmly and reassure infant, and continue established routine.

heather

8/13/2016 10:01:38 pm

i think at that age it would be perfectly normal I would assure the parents that this type of behavior is pretty normal at this age and they are just going through another milestone of development. i would suggest the parent allows the child to bring something that may help the child feel comfort while the parent is gone, like a blinky or stuff animal. parents should respond calmly and continue to establish a good routine so the child knows it and it begins to become established.

jamie kindler

8/14/2016 02:02:46 pm

separation anxiety is a normal step in child development and can be a very emotional and stressful one for both parents and child.
first I would encourage parents to stay positive and calm and reassuring their child it will all be ok, even stay awhile till their child feels comfortable enough to explore their surroundings some.

christian

8/15/2016 05:24:14 pm

Letting the parents know that this a normal stage in development for a child of this age is key. Explaining to them that he has former the connection with them as the primary caregivers and the fear of being separated from them is common. Jamal has formed the understanding that his parents exist even when they aren't around such as when you take a toy from a child and instead of finding a new one they search for the one they had. Separation anxiety from a primary caregiver is normal, and will usually pass with time but keeping the young child on a normal routine at home and also with coming to childcare with help with that process.

Sarah

8/16/2016 04:59:38 pm

I would let the parents know that separation anxiety is a normal stage in the child's development and explain why. In addition, I would engage the infant in an activity and comfort the infant when needed.

Negar

8/18/2016 05:51:24 pm

This is a normal developmental stage where the child begins to recognize who the primary provider is. And i would recommend parents to assure that they are safe with the people that their parents will leave them with and they will be back to pick them up very soon

Channel Craft

8/19/2016 10:53:22 am

This is normal it shows the child has a strong attachment to its primary care giver. I would assure the parents that this is normal in the developmental process and that the parents need to assure their kid that they are safe and will be back soon to pick them up. Also that it's best for the parent to drop them off and pick them up at the same time so the kid knows the schedule and what to expect.

Jessica P.

8/19/2016 10:56:03 pm

Let the parent know its normal. The child may be acting this way because of the grown attachment to their primary care giver.

Dejie

8/20/2016 12:18:12 pm

The child has a strong attachment to the primary caregiver. Notify the parents that this behavior is normal and there is nothing to worry about. Respond with a toy or a reminder that the parents will be there to pick them up soon.

Diane Lindquist

8/20/2016 01:17:06 pm

The child acts this way because it has reached a milestone in social/emotional growth. At this time it is normal for children to know who is their primary caregiver and not want to leave the love and protection of that person. A favorite toy/stuffed animal at the center might remind the child that they are safe there. Also having the same teacher there to receive the child would be the key for the child. The reason for this behavior is the child's brain has developed enough, through repeated encounters, to have strengthen the synapses in the brain to recognize who in their lives they have a relationship with.

Toni

8/21/2016 09:20:49 pm

I strongly agree with this statement.

Lori

8/22/2016 08:31:42 pm

1. It is normal, after spending a lot of time with their parents children can be uncomfortable with a large change such as being away from them for a longer period of time.
2. Working up to a point of being away from their child over time so that he can get used to the idea and isn't just thrust into it one day.
3. Children get into a routine with their parents and when that is disrupted it can be upsetting for them - they are learning to do something different and meeting new people all at one time which can make them scared. Slowly moving into a change like this can help them as they are able to slowly understand that their parents can leave them and will come back to them.

Jennifer Gonzalez

8/22/2016 10:19:48 pm

child starts to acts this way because it reached a milestone in social or emotional growth and i would suggest to ask the parent to stay couple minutes to comfort the child. This could be explained because the child has grown and now knows who his parents are and the babysitter.

Megan Schultz

8/23/2016 10:37:55 am

Separation anxiety and help with redirection and also inform the parents

Sueann Robinson

8/24/2016 08:28:43 pm

1. He is acting this way because he is developmentally on track.
2. I would suggest the parents keep to a drop off routine such as bringing him into the class putting his backpack away and saying goodbye, at that point the teacher takes Jamal to start and activity and the parents leave.
3. Explain to the parents that this is just a milestone which is a good thing and with a little time will outgrow it

tara rock

8/25/2016 03:13:56 pm

this is normal for his milestones for his age. i would let his parents now that and reassure them he will be ok and that he always has such a good day when he gets settled in his class.

Natalya C

8/25/2016 04:10:12 pm

Why might the child(ren) act this way? This is a normal part of development as Jamal now recognizes who his primary caregiver is and wants to stay with them. There could be a new stressor going on as well either at home or in the daycare, or maybe he was at home for an extended period of time outside of the regular routine.
What would you suggest? Reassure the parents that this is normal and that it is important to stick to the same drop off/pick up routine. It really only lasts up to a couple of weeks.
How could this concept be explained? His reaction is a good thing as this means that his brain has developed to this milestone. Time and routine will help him move past it and it will soon be easier.

maya

8/25/2016 11:02:11 pm

Why might the child(ren) act this way?

Separation anxiety is a normal behavior that is actually good, it shows that there is a strong attachment.It also shows that Jamal now has a concept of object permanence and also understands that coming to daycare means mom and dad are leaving (cause and effect)

What would you suggest?

I would suggest a quick goodbye that is consistent every time. Trying to "sneak" out may seem like a better idea, but children develop mistrust and confusion when this happens. Once mom says bye redirect the child to a preferable task.

How could this concept be explained?

I would just explain that this is a perfectly normal and even a good thing, that her child is understanding more about the world and adjusting to all the newness.

Karen

9/24/2016 03:39:16 pm

I agree with these comments!

Emmy

8/26/2016 12:06:57 pm

Why might the child(ren) act this way? -It is normal for children that age to experience separation anxiety. It means they have a healthy attachment to their caregivers.

What would you suggest? -Come a little bit early and bring a beloved stuffed animal or blankie. Begin building a good-bye routine.

How could this concept be explained? -Its a good thing because it means the child is developing object permanence.

Amanda

8/26/2016 10:53:37 pm

The child is acting this way because he has reached the clingy stage, the stage where the parents are a sense of familiarity and security. Being afraid of new environments and new people is completely normal for children. I would just inform the parents that it is entirely expected and normal for this to happen and that if we encourage them to branch out and get used to change it will help them branch out of this stage and become used to the change. Make sure you encourage the child and the parents; have them stick to a normal routine so that it is easier for the child to adjust.
Explaining it: I think it would be considered separation anxiety.

Divya Nayak

8/28/2016 09:28:03 am

At this age, a child is anxious at the time of separation. Children develop relationship with their primary caregiver. It is essential to understand the child's anxiety at separation. Primary caregivers or parents can stay longer for first few days so that parents also understand the behavior of their child and environment of a child care center. The child is aware now when the mom is not there with him and she is somewhere else. This concept will make a child afraid which is natural. But he will get used to it when he will realize that the mother will always come back. It is important that the separation is progressive starting with a short period of time and then prolonging the duration.

Taylor Yates

8/28/2016 09:42:14 pm

There are one of two ways why hes acting that way there has been a sudden change in schedule or even like said above its a milestone. I would suggest communicating with the parents about milestones, and asking if there was a drastic change. I would suggest extra reassurances, such as telling the child they will be ok, they'll have fun while being here and that Mom or Dad will be back shortly. But I think that the parents would need to be reassured this was a normal developmental stage.

Sandra

8/28/2016 11:55:54 pm

Reassure parents that this is normal in childhood development. Encourage the parents to keep a routine with the child at the daycare as well as at home. Suggest to the parents that they bring an item from home like a stuffed animal or blanket that may help Comfort the child during the transition.

Daniel

8/30/2016 05:30:46 am

I would reassure the parents that this behavior is quite normal in childhood growth and development. I would suggest that the parents form strong routines of when the child is dropped off and picked up. I would also mention that this could be caused by simply stress and maybe a security blanket or comforting stuffed animal from home could help the transition

Ashley

8/30/2016 10:32:15 am

I would suggest that this is normal behavior that occurs. I would assure the parents that the child calms down quickly. I would explain this concept by informing the parents that multiple primary caregivers that can confuse the child and cause the child to reject one.

Molly Morano

8/31/2016 02:30:41 pm

The infant may have acted in this way because he has developed a close relationship with his parents, who are his primary caregivers. I would explain to the parents that his behavior is normal because he has a healthy attachment to them. I might suggest to the parents that when they bring him to day care that they do not linger in the room because that will just make Jamal more upset. I would suggest that they give him a hug, say they will be back later and leave the classroom to make the transition easier for Jamal. I would also make the parents aware that they could call me at any time to check on Jamal. I would also explain that the crying does not last long.

Samantha

9/1/2016 02:36:00 am

Jamal is just the right age to expect this kind of behavior. I'd suggest his parents talk to other parents at his day care center, to their friends and relatives - particularly their own parents to find out if they behaved in this manner too. I'd also suggest they look into researching typical behavior of 6-12 month old babies so they are get a fuller understanding of what is happening with Jamal.

jenna

9/3/2016 01:03:02 pm

Jamal's behavior is expected and completely normal. I would suggest discussing more openly with other parents and relatives about their child's behavior. Or give examples of my own kids.

Elizabeth Sloan

9/6/2016 08:45:31 pm

I would reassure Jamal's parents that this type of separation anxiety is normal. With collaborating with his parents we would do a routine that is a cue for Jamal that his parents will be leaving. For example bringing him over to a soft, cozy space where he feels safe. Use of language, "We love you. See you soon" and as the care giver I can respond, "You are loved. They'll see you soon". This may constant and consistent routine may help ease his anxiety and that of his parents.

Breanna

9/6/2016 10:02:04 pm

This is a totally normal stage of development and the parents need to be reassured of that. When Jamal arrives at daycare, he should immediately be distracted by an engaging activity to get his mind away from his parents leaving. He should have a blanket or some other comforting object from home to give him if he gets separation anxiety later in the day. This concept could be explained by using examples of other children so the parents know it's okay.

Bill Caudill

9/8/2016 01:59:38 pm

it is hard for children when they have to be seperated from mom especially when they've been at home with them for long periods of time

Clara Nelson

9/10/2016 02:49:59 pm

Jamal may act this way because it is a developmental stage and is expected. It may be helpful to reassure the parents and explain to them that this is very normal and a good sign that Jamal is reaching developmental milestones at the correct age.

Theresa

9/16/2016 12:22:16 pm

Reassure the parents that he will be ok and that this is very normal and that it's a good sign he's reaching his milestones at the correct age.

Dilrabo

9/17/2016 10:04:53 pm

It might be different reasons also it can be just recognizing his mother very well and try to get more attention from her. So, in this case big responsibility takes his mother. Also, caregiver should think and do something interesting to catch his attention every morning. It depends on his temperament.

Micaela P

9/19/2016 06:20:21 pm

This sounds like a normal development. At six months, children are in a very different stage of development than they are at ten months. I would suggest talking to the parents about this, gently explaining to them how important it is that they continue to notice all of their baby's behaviors and developments -- but that this development is actually a positive step forward in their baby's development.

Kaitlyn

9/21/2016 08:37:54 am

The child might be acting this way because of his age, it is a sensitive time and he is now in the period when he is more attached to his mother who is his primary care giver. It's important to explain to the parents that this behavior is completely normal and expected at that age and they shouldn't be concerned.

Maria

9/21/2016 02:49:50 pm

The reason for Jamal 's crying might be simple. May be he doesn't like the day care's snacks or nap time is bothering him. Jamal's all of a sudden crying is showing some kind of frustration and which can be fixed. For this i will invite parent for a meeting or visit and figure out alternative solution.

Jaya

9/21/2016 06:23:08 pm

because of the age of Jamal, he is growing more affectionate and attached to his parents and when he isn't in his presents he notices that they are leaving, which is good for the brain development because he recognizes the situation of them going away and him entering a new place.

Marree Perrault

9/22/2016 01:28:35 pm

I would explain to the parents that this is a normal response as the child develops. I would reassure the child and parents that Jamal will be fine and his friends will be with him during the day and he would see his parents soon. This type of positive stress is good for child development.

Francesca Vespa

9/22/2016 09:29:42 pm

The child is acting this way because he is entering the separation anxiety stage which is a normal mile stone for older infants and younger toddlers. I would suggest the mother reassure's Jamal at drop off and play with him a bit before leaving. It would also help him feel more comfortable if there were photos of his family in the classroom. I would explain to the parents that it is a normal milestone for older infants and early toddlers to experience separation anxiety.

Dani H

9/23/2016 09:43:59 pm

The child is responding this way due to a healthy strong attachment to a care giver. When no longer in the presence or when the child is realizes the presence will be removed the child develops anxiety which is a normal response. The parents should be reassured that the child's response in normal and should be assisted in developing a routine the child can understand to help reduce the anxiety associated with the separation from the primary care giver. The child can be provided or allowed to keep a object that brings them comfort such as a pacifier, blanket or stuffed animal. The child care provider should also work on a routine for when the child arrives and work on building a bond of trust with the child so the child feels safer and more comfortable at the child care facility.

Esther

9/25/2016 04:58:04 pm

It is normal for a child of this age to act this way, because the child has become attached to their primary caregiver. They recognize that the caregiver is leaving and don't understand that they will come back.
The most important thing is to reassure the parent that the child will be fine in a little while after they leave. I would suggest taking the child and having them wave by by to their parent and then finding a distraction to take the child's mind off of the parent leaving.
As the child grows, they get attached to their primary caregiver. When that person drops them off at daycare, or with a sitter, the child only sees that the primary caregiver is leaving. They don't yet understand that they will come back again to get them.

Amber

9/27/2016 05:28:03 pm

The child is acting this way because he is now old enough to understand the emotional bond he has with his parents and fear leaving them.

You must reassure the parents that its completely normal and maybe offer suggestions on a strict morning routine to make drop off easier.

As well as picking up a toy as a distraction for the child

dhanya

9/28/2016 01:06:35 pm

separation anxitey is the normal for a child in this age. because they more attached to their parents.talking to the child will help some time..tell them to more story about pre school etc.also it's important to explain to the parents that this behavior is completely normal and expected at that age and they shouldn't be concerned.

Ashley Graetzer

9/28/2016 01:53:15 pm

the child is experiancing seperation anxiety from his parents who he is daily making stronger connections with, when a child becomes more attatched it can be harder for them when initially seperated. I would suggest that the care giver make the child feel comfortable, bond with them and let them feel reassured that mom amd dad will come back are ways that could help the transition to not be so emotional. if the child also creates a sturdy bond with the care taker they will be less emotional and more willing to let the parents leave because they feel secure with that person.

Carson

9/28/2016 02:34:51 pm

I would try to find a way to explain to them about how at Jamal's age they go through a stage. I would guide the parent into a better way to drop off so that the transition is easier for their child.

ella rock

9/28/2016 07:07:20 pm

Children might act this way because they are unsure if they are going to see there parents again.
I would comfort the child and hold him and try to comfort and soothe him.
If the child becomes more comfortable with the caregiver he will have less anxiety

LaRISHA cALLEY

10/2/2016 02:40:11 pm

1.Why might the child(ren) act this way?

The child might be acting this way because he is older and beginning to focus on more details and notice that his parents are "LEAVING" him. It is very normal children to go through this separation anxiety because they can not comprehend that their parents will be back to get them so when they leave it makes the child upset.

2.What would you suggest?

I would suggest bringing something that the child likes or something of their parents so they can still smell and feel the comfort of the parents and I would also suggest passing the child off to the teacher instead of just setting them down and leaving.

3.How could this concept be explained?

Explain when children reach a certain age they begin to observe more but are not able to understand and they may feel abandoned so it is very normal fro children to experience this.

Tessa

10/2/2016 06:10:56 pm

The child is acting this way because he is reaching the stage of separation anxiety. He is getting older and is now 10 months. It is very normal for him to feel this way and for how he is acting. I would suggest bringing in something with him so that he has something to cling on to and remember you by. The child is growing and getting older. When they reach a certain age they begin to observe more and are not able to understand. Like how they feel.

Kate

10/4/2016 12:02:10 am

The child has recognized the strong connection between him and his primary caregiver which are his parents. Separation anxiety is a normal stage in a child's development. He realized that he is being left. Consistency in how a goodbye is done so that it becomes familiar is important. Also, something that they can keep to hang onto can be helpful. The child is being observant and sees what is happening but doesn't fully understand why he is being left or feels this way. Because of this the child has separation anxiety.

Beth

10/11/2016 05:06:12 pm

I would tell the parents their child is acting this way because they are at the age in normal development when the child starts to recognize they will be separated from their primary caregiver and will have separation anxiety. I would tell them not to worry, this is normal and is expected in the trajectory of child development.

Karlee McCarroll

10/23/2016 03:17:59 pm

I think this is a very normal situation for kids and parents at this age/stage in life. The child is understanding who is mother is and becomes attached to her so does not understand why he/she would have to leave her. I would suggest that the parents follow a very strict routine of dropping off and picking up the child at the same exact time every day so he/she knows and can begin to become aware of when he needs to leave his mom.

Brittany Williams

11/29/2016 08:48:50 pm

I agree routine would probably help in this situation.

crystal molina

11/1/2016 10:34:05 am

This is very normal for a child at this age. I think it can at times be harder for parents then the child itself. It becomes difficult to leave your child when they are crying and don't want you to leave. Having a routine for drop off and pick up could possibly help sooth this rough stage.

Brianne Frazier

11/1/2016 07:54:04 pm

answer to question #1:
this is a very common thing that a child of 10 months to experience anxiety from their parents and even caregivers. i think that Jamal is acting this way because the child is coming at that age where Jamal is recognizing who his mother is and is developing a special bond and connection with her. so by putting Jamal in a different situation everyday and being gone for a certain amount of hours is stressful for him.

answer to question #2
i would suggest to encourage Jamal to come in and in a welcoming voice say, "well hello Jamal, guess what we are going to be doing today." then, list the fun activities you are going to do. get Jamal excited and then with a excited emotion take Jamal's hand and guide him to the other kids. finally when he is distracted with all the fun activities the mother can leave.

answer to question #3
this can be explained by having a routine everyday of saying goodbye, and having the same or almost the same routine as the child does at home.

Rachel

11/4/2016 10:42:35 am

He maybe unsure of his surroundings and he could have some anxiety

Jessica Hachman

11/5/2016 05:58:28 pm

I would reasure the parents that this is just a normal stage in that child's development and that the child will grow out of it, sometimes sooner rather that later and that the sudden onset of this behavior wouldn't necessarily mean that something happened at the center but that its just a typical developmental behavior at that age.

I would suggest to make the drop offs easier to possibly come in a little earlier and stay with the child to let the child know that its okay and that they are in a safe place.Or just have open communication with the caregiver and say "mommy will be back" and hand the child to the caregiver for comfort and have the caregiver distract child.

Miko

11/9/2016 10:19:58 pm

The child may act this way as he is reaching developmentally appropriate milestones. He becomes aware that his parents are leaving and he is being left alone. He sees them leave but can not see them coming back at the time of drop off and this can cause anxiety.
Explaining to the parents that this is a normal stage that all children will go through can help them not worry about what is happening to cause this change with their son. It can be beneficial to give parents information about appropriate milestones with ones that include separation anxiety. You can also remind the parents that at their next well visit check with the child's pediatrician they can ask for reassurance that this is normal. Some parents greatly appreciate a quick call or picture texted or emailed to them after the child has calmed down after drop off which allows the parent to have a more calm day at work where they are unsure if their child is still upset or not.

hayley lautt

11/13/2016 06:29:25 pm

the child is acting this way because he is reaching his developmental milestones. i would suggest the parent to bring the childs favorite stuffed animal or blanket for nap time and explain that this is completely normal for a child to do and that it is almost a good thing the child is responding in this matter because it means he is meeting his developmental milestones.

Olena Velychko

11/14/2016 10:43:57 pm

Jamal reacts this way because he entered the most mature stage of his development, then he was in before. He knows exactly who his parents are and feels more attached to them than to others.
I would suggest just give me him a little bit more time and advise to start a routine every morning, so the child would know what to expect; also if possible, let him build a special relationship with only one caregiver in a daycare at that time to feel more secure

Marci Gochnour

11/15/2016 10:23:28 am

It is extremely normal for a child to act this way. ITs apart of their development and it important to tell the parents to countinue their normal routine at home and at the care center. Could very well just be a sensitive time for the child. You could always suggest the parents letting the child bring in their favorite stuffed animal or blanket for a little extra comfort.

Channing

11/16/2016 07:38:41 pm

Children might act this way, because they are developing more awareness of their surroundings, feelings and environment every single day. Perhaps the child hadn’t had an aware, direct experience of the pain of separation from his mother until he was old enough to. On the other hand, perhaps his mother has been spending less time with him at home, and he’s fed up with her absence. He could also be experiencing too much stimuli for his age at the center, and is associating school with pressure and stress.

I would suggest the parent and teacher actively engaging with the child when he starts getting upset. Since he’s not at an age with much understanding of words and how to use them, he could start learning a sentence his mom and caretakers could repetitively tell him when faced with the moment of separation from mom; something like, “hello Jamal. I love you. Do you love me? Today we are going to school. What and who are you going to play with today? You will have fun.” If the parent brings Jamal into the room and starts engaging in an activity with him for a little bit, it will start his transition into learning and playing.

This concept can be explained through the child recognizing his primary care provider and beginning to understand his feelings for his mother.

Jaleesa

11/17/2016 03:36:21 pm

This is very common, children are always growing and developing and at this age they might start to recognize the fact that Mom or Dad is leaving them, kids often go through this phase as some point or another. I would reassure parents that this is normal and I would be sure to take extra time to devote to the child during this difficult time. I would encourage the parents not pro longing the good bye as this can sometimes be harder on the child.

Kim

11/22/2016 07:33:39 pm

This is normal for kids around 9-10 months to start getting separation anxiety. Kids at this age just need to gain trust with a caregiver

Sally Ireton

11/25/2016 10:50:26 am

Babies at this age starts to realize that they are no longer attached to their mother and the child is realizing that you are not there and the go to person to get all good things is not there. Its relatively normal thing for children to cry when their parents leave and if the parent is feeling anxiety it will be more difficult for the child to calm down.
It is best to explain to the parents to give their child a kiss and a hug goodbye and hand off to the teacher. It helps if the teacher stands at the window and waves goodbye to the parent and let the parents know in a few minutes their child will start to play. Its a normal thing for a child to have a separation anxiety and some children cry while others just need to walk around with their blanket.

eric peterson

11/25/2016 03:10:25 pm

This is a normal process, likely triggered by a change inenvironement, and/or a change in developmental stage of the child.

cassie chao

11/26/2016 11:52:48 am

The child is acting that way because they have reached a milestone of awareness. to help them the parents can bring in something familiar like a favorite stuff animal or blanket, also to explain the parents that it is just a stage but with the familiarity of the attached stuff animal or blanket will help them.

Tracy Williams

11/26/2016 03:07:13 pm

Maria

11/28/2016 11:15:49 pm

It seems like the child is going through a natural stage of separation anxiety and worry. I would suggest having some stuff from his home to help illicit comfort like blankets or a stuffed animal. I would also ask his parents to prolong the time when they drop him off, or come early, to give the child some extra time to become comfortable at the center. It's very important to be sensitive to a child's anxiety.

Brittany Williams

11/29/2016 08:47:56 pm

The child is acting this way because he has a close bond with his parents, and this is a stage most children go through. I would tell the parents not to worry, and explain to them this a is completely normal situation for this age.

Sherry

12/12/2016 09:13:53 pm

Most children are attached to the primary caregivers and at this age they are put in a situation where they are taken away from them, which causes stress and therefore this a normal response to stress. Reassuring parents that most children experience this, referring them to any resources or offering to provide anything that may give comfort (toy, blanket etc) to help.

Shannon Ludvigson

12/17/2016 10:41:45 pm

It will be necessary to explain to the parent that the child is showing separation anxiety which is completely developmentally appropriate. I will do my best to comfort and reassure the child and the parent as well, if necessary.

Jennifer Overmiller

12/27/2016 04:49:06 pm

children from the ages of 6 to 7 months can start to show signs of separation anxiety but it peaks between 10 to 18 months. on one hand it shows that the babies developmental growth is on track which is good but probably just as hard for the parent too. Fist ti would suggest to reassure the parents that this is just apart of there baby growing up and its to be expected at this age and that the best way to make it easier for the both of them is making a routine of same time pick up and drop off because it makes the child feel more secure being on a schedule and to bring in a comfort item and reassurance that they will be back after work and to have a lot of fun with their friends (turn a negative situation into a positive) the caregivers could be a great help for this transition too to get an activity or some cuddles or dancing to help brighten their mood.
During the first 6 months of a babies life they have no idea they are independent from their parents or any other caregiver; that's why most babies are happy to move from lap to lap. Around 6 months babies begin to distinguish one person from another and start to form emotional attachments to the child's parents and caregivers. At this age as well the child is beginning to understand object permanence. EX)if babies mom leaves the room he remembers she left and wonders when she will return.
This equals a perfect recopy for separation anxiety

Claudina nunez

12/30/2016 03:12:54 pm

This kind of separation anxiety is pretty normal for a child his age.I would suggest leaving and allowing the child to calm down with the educators.

Jessica Coulson

1/7/2017 01:17:08 am

I agree with everyone who stressed a calm reassurance to the parent that nothing has happened other than that Jamal has come upon an exiting new phase of development where he is more aware of his surroundings and more attached to his caregiver.
He simply needs time to adjust to the idea of being away from mamma and needs to feel that mamma is ok leaving him there and that she will be back to get him. Mamma can help by as others stated ritualizing the transition with certain gestures such as a progression of kisses and hugs that is the same every time and telling Jamal in a calm upbeat voice that Mary Kay or whoever is safe, perhaps by hugging or acknowledging them physically and reassuring him they will be back.

Sarah Allen

1/8/2017 05:48:19 pm

Why might the child(ren) act this way? This is likely because Jamal is entering the Separation Anxiety stage of development and demonstrates that Jamal is securely attached to his mother. It is likely a positive thing that Jamal is acting this way because it shows that he has a strong relationship with his mother.
What would you suggest? I would suggest that parents not worry because this is a normal part of many children's development. I would suggest that the mother simply assure Jamal that she will return at the end of the day and give a hug or kiss goodbye and then pass him over to a caretaker who can spend some time holding him and giving him some attention and allowing him to calm down.
How could this concept be explained? I believe this concept could be explained to Jamal's mom by simply stating that this is a normal stage that many children of his age go through called separation anxiety and tell her that it demonstrates that Jamal has a secure bond with his mother, while reassuring her that this stage will eventually pass and is a normal part of brain development.

Danielle Newsome

1/12/2017 06:32:50 pm

Why might the child(ren) act this way?
The child is acting this way because it is a completely normal developmental step. Kids go through all sorts of phases and this happens to be one.
What would you suggest?
I would suggest the parents stick to the same routines with home and daycare so that the child realizes that its a normal thing and that mommy or daddy will always be there to get them.
How could this concept be explained?
Its a developmental milestone

Stephanie Laut

1/16/2017 05:35:52 pm

Jamal just reached this new development at his age of 10 months. His brain is becoming aware that his parents are leaving him and he does not know when they will be back. This is a normal age for that to happen. Prior to this, Jamal did not have the cognitive understanding of what was going on.

Farahia Hussein Bare

1/17/2017 10:27:55 pm

the child is beganing to know his or her pramary caregiverr and is gettting separation enxcity. The praimary caregiverr should ensure to give lots kisses and hugs before leaving the baby.

Andrea Estola

1/18/2017 02:17:46 am

I think this can be normal because children go through stages, like the video and readings touched on children learn by taking two steps forward and then sometimes one step back.

Bailey Duenas

1/18/2017 06:11:33 pm

It is perfectly normal for a child to act this way at his age, when children are around 6 months they start getting "clingy" to their primary caregivers, I would simply encourage the parents that this is normal and they should not be worried for their child.

Joshua Martindale

1/23/2017 11:48:02 am

Scenario 1)
Q1) Why Might the Child(ren) Act this Way?
A1) This child might be acting this way because of a turn over in staff meaning that the primary caregiver at the center who was most involved in Jamal's development and the "Serving/Returning" caregiver/child interaction

Q2) What Would You Suggest?
A2) I would suggest to the parents that even though Jamal is almost 10 and just entering the separation anxiety stage that this is completely normal and there is nothing to worry about.

Q3) How Could this Concept be Explained?
A3) It can be explained to the parents that the drop off of Jamal needs to be a good experience. Be happy during the drop off period. Show the child that good things happen here and that everything will be okay. I also agree with other posters that keeping a schedule of drop off and pick up is a key player as well since the child knows that eventually their family will pick them back up.

sarah garnett

1/23/2017 01:28:21 pm

A child may act this way due to different stages of development. I would support child during this separation anxiety by making the experience positive during these transition times. I would let the parent know this is normal behavior.

james murphy

1/29/2017 11:02:22 pm

The parents should be educated that this response from 10 month olds are common. Children at this age develop a sense of when their parents or primary caregivers are leaving them and are understandably upset. Perhaps a solid transition plan could be introduced to try and relieve some of the separation anxiety.

Andrea Ofiara

2/4/2017 09:48:38 pm

This is a perfectly normal milestone of development the child is going through. I would assure the parent that it is normal behavior and nothing to be worried about. I would suggest that the parent stay fr a moment or two and help calm the child down and transition them in a nurturing positive way to the caregiver whom as well should have a calm nurturing voice with the child to have them feel safe and more comfortable and for the parents to feel the same way as well.

Rukiya Elmi

2/6/2017 11:10:42 am

The reason is that so far the child has been with his/her father but now they have to learn this new faces, place different from their usual life. what i do is ahead of time i will tell the parent to bring everything the child loves. sometimes his mother or father's smell. i will hug them and give them interesting toys.
it is like the child is stepping out their comfort zone. at first it may be hard but in time the child will look forward coming to their place.

Jenee

2/18/2017 04:15:16 pm

i agree

Karly Schroder

2/26/2017 10:47:45 pm

Separation anxiety is a normal stage of development for Jamal's age. I would remind the parents of this and encourage them by saying he warms right up when they leave.

Jane Minifie

3/26/2017 02:39:33 pm

Jamal is experiencing normal and healthy separation anxiety as he is becoming aware that his caregiver/parent is a separate person that can leave. He may not yet understand that the parent will always come back. I would tell the parents that the behavior is normal, and he will recover quickly if goodbyes are kept brief and the parents show confidence that Jamal is safe with his teachers.

tierra

4/30/2017 12:36:11 pm

i will reassuring the parent of such behavior of separation anxiety and different environment is normal of development. ill recommend bringing something like stuff animal or a comfort toy.

Megan White

6/3/2017 11:49:21 am

Why would the child act this way?
Because it is a normal milestone of growth in the age that he is in

What would you suggest?
I would suggest keeping their routine the same.

How could this concept be explained?
I would tell the parents this is part of his growth and his development and as it being a milestone, it's a good thing he is attached during drop-offs.

Ayita Berhane

6/16/2017 12:18:27 pm

The child might be acting this way because even though he has been going to the same daycare for a while, he is just getting to the age at which he is more aware of what is going on - his parent is leaving him (for a short period of time). It is typical for babies this age to be very attached to their primary caregivers. I would suggest that the parents give the child some hugs and kisses and some encouraging words and then hand the child off to someone who works at the daycare. The parent should quickly leave after saying goodbye and that he or she will be back later. I would suggest that the worker then engage the infant in some kind of activity. As I previously mentioned, it is typical for infants to feel separation anxiety as this age because they are bonding very strongly with their primary caregivers and becoming more cognizant of the world around them and what is going on. They should be made to feel safe and aware of the fact that their parents will be back to pick them up later in the day.

sally

6/20/2017 01:51:19 pm

at this age he is more aware of what is going on around him and then suddenly they become clingy but we got to tell parents it is normal for kids to become clingy and help them calm down is to bring their favorite toy or stuff animals anything that keeps them calm.

rachel illeene wieland

10/10/2017 01:09:30 pm

The actions that this child is showing in my opinion, is normal. Many different things can contribute to new behaviors like this. As in new caregivers, home stress, the stress if realizing that he/she is no longer with mom all the time, and or anxieties from other reasons.
I personally would suggest distracting the child into something to help the child focus on something else than his mother. introduce a movie, outside time, breakfast or lunch depending on the time of day, etc.
This could be explained to the parent exactly how i just explained it.

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