Module 8 Outcome C

9/23/2013

50 Comments

Supporting Self-Management Behavior

How have you stopped yourself or gotten help when you felt you might harm a child?

50 Comments

Maggie

11/27/2016 07:00:11 pm

I have never felt the urge to harm a child. I try my best to remain calm and positive, but there are times when I have another caregiver step in while I take a breathe of fresh air and then come back ready to go.

Tracy Williams

11/28/2016 08:09:24 pm

I take a few breaths if I'm really frustrated. If I know I cannot handle the situation in a caring way, I do ask for help from a coworker.

Cassie Chao

6/4/2017 04:17:53 pm

I agree. Taking deep breaths help. but what works for me is to also ask for help from a coworker and take a breather.

Eric Peterson

11/30/2016 04:47:42 pm

How have you stopped yourself or gotten help when you felt you might harm a child?

I've never felt I might harm a child, but I don't have much experience with them either. When I have been frustrated, I have found that stepping back a bit, taking a deep breath, and breathing slower helps.

Dani Hartshorn

12/8/2016 08:40:47 pm

I have done both. While I was pregnant I found I was very early frustrated and needed help more often. On several occasions I had to step back and change the situation because I was feeling overwhelmed and was unable to properly handle the child's behavior, I was not always able to have another adult step in but when I was I would ask for help from another adult. When I wasn't I would step back and take a mental time out so I could regroup and reproach the situation. It's important to acknowledge the need so you can do what is best for the child and yourself.

Jessica Hachman

12/14/2016 12:15:51 pm

I personally have never been to the point of me actually think I may harm a child. I have gotten overwhelmed and have asked for help. You just have to remind yourself working with young children is hard and to try to do your best every day.

Karlee McCarroll

12/15/2016 02:35:39 pm

I do not think I have ever been in a situation like this however if I was I would take a deep breath and ask another teacher to help me for a minute

Shannon Ludvigson

12/19/2016 10:45:29 pm

When I find myself getting frustrated or exhausted, I stop for a moment and then smile or laugh. I must remember not to take it too seriously. I can only do my best and they are only doing theirs.

Sherry Carlson

12/20/2016 10:19:19 pm

I've gotten very frustrated with my daughter at times and I always ask for help. If no one else is around, I put her in her crib and step outside for a moment for a few deep breaths. I know she is in a safe place. However I do not have experience with children that are a little older and having a tantrum.

Ashley Aiello

12/21/2016 08:57:33 pm

I have never felt concerned that I would harm a child. But when i am upset, and feeling overwhelmed I ask for a break for the sake of everyone involved.

Kesha

12/23/2016 11:36:20 am

the thought of harming has never occurred to me. However, during testing times it is better to be calm and leave the area, ask another teacher to step to finish helping the child.

Rachel

12/27/2016 04:49:19 pm

I take a few breaths if I'm really frustrated. If I know I cannot handle the situation in a caring way, I do ask for help from a coworker.

Erin Kathleen Ratliff

12/31/2016 03:31:40 pm

I don't think I have been to the point where I thought I might hurt a kid but I have experienced being stressed and noticing my tolerance level struggling. I have had babies who have screamed 1-3 hours. That's really tough. What has helped is staff taking turns. Knowing that the child has had all their needs met. That way I know nothing is seriously wrong. Talking to other co-workers about the same fears or feelings of stress helps a lot. I think as a caregiver you feel guilty if you become stressed with a screaming baby or a child throwing tantrum that cannot be consoled.

I also know my triggers. Lack of sleep is one. I notice if I have less sleep my tolerance and patience is not as strong. I also know when to take breaks. I recently became a Family Advocate and still work some hours a a toddler teacher. I really needed the break. It is no so much the of the toddlers as the physical work that I was burnt out on. Working with young children takes quite a toll one persons body..

So, lots of rest. Trying to eat healthy and exercise. Learning appropriate lifting and carrying children and babies makes a huge difference, Treating yourself at home to relaxation. By Monday your ready to start a new week.

Ariel

1/8/2017 06:35:35 pm

since I have started working at this facility I haven't felt a urge to hurt any of the children. but before with my cousins when they would get me so worked up that I was afraid I would verbally hurt them I would tell them to go to their rooms so I can have my space and calm down. I always apologize after and tell them that just like them I have to have calming moments. now working where I work I just breathe when I'm telling the child to breathe and that has been my best help.

Terry

1/8/2017 08:40:43 pm

It highly depends on situation, but for most issues getting someone else to cover and taking a quick walk or finding an adult to vent with and get another perspective on situation.

Jessica Coulson

1/8/2017 11:39:42 pm

I have never thought of physically harming a child, but with my own child I know to tap out to my husband when I am really beyond being reasonable with my child.

I also teach my children deep breathing excersises in art class, and remind them to use them when situations get tense, and I sometimes admit to them that I need one as well.

Kimmy Tenerife

1/9/2017 02:13:28 pm

I take a deep breath. calm down. if I cannot handle i ask help from my co worker,

Dani

1/18/2017 01:48:39 pm

I have never thought about harming a child but if I ever get frustrated enough that I feel like I'm losing control of the situation I think I would ask for a break or help from another teacher.

Marci Gochnour

1/18/2017 02:02:27 pm

I either have another teacher step in so I can go potty and take a moment to calm myself or I ask out assistant director to come and take the child that is causing that feeling for a walk for a minute while we both calm down.

Sarah Allen

1/22/2017 03:53:14 pm

If I were frustrated and thought I might take it out on a child in terms of angry speech or other behavior that would negatively impact the student, I would either take a deep breath or ask a coworker to step in for some help so that I could take a break.

Stephanie Laut

1/22/2017 10:23:03 pm

I have never thought of physically harming a child and anyone who has should reconsider a new profession.

Joshua Martindale

1/24/2017 03:55:16 pm

How have you stopped yourself or gotten help when you felt you might harm a child? I have stopped myself by taking a breath, internally telling myself I am not in the right mind to handle this situation and then finding another child caregiver to take on the child who is fresh and in the right mindset.

Farahia bare

1/24/2017 04:51:02 pm

I haven't work with other children except mine but taking a break does help or having someone else take your place. I work in the hospital and sometimes have difficult patient, I always step out and come back later only this time to restart rather than go back

Bailey Duenas

1/25/2017 05:03:18 pm

I would never hurt a child but there have been times where my patience is too low and I have to get a assistant to step in real quick for me while I step out for a minute and take a deep breath to recollect myself and then continue what I was doing.

sarah link

1/26/2017 01:19:44 pm

I have had time when i'm frustrated but have needed to ask for assistance

Danielle Newsome

1/26/2017 06:26:19 pm

How have you stopped yourself or gotten help when you felt you might harm a child?
Being a stay at home mom can get challenging sometimes. I've had to put my child in a safe place and walk into another room for a minute and take deep breaths. I also have asked my fiancé to take over or other family we live with if I know my stress is causing my son stress.

Maria Alvestad-Ereth

1/29/2017 02:33:09 am

How have you stopped yourself or gotten help when you felt you might harm a child?

I take some breaths, get some water or coffee, think about going home soon, and ask my coworkers for help. I also try to openly say to the adults and children, "I am really frustrated right now". That way the kids know how I'm feeling, and the people I work with know it might be time to find a new activity or distract a few kids for a little while. All the adults at my center are excellent about noticing when things are getting a bit chaotic or another caretaker is losing her cool. Teamwork and communication, I think, are huge.

Rachel

1/29/2017 11:47:39 pm

While I have never felt that I would harm a child, I have been frustrated and the best thing to do is take a break, take several deep breaths, get a drink of water and start again. If another teacher is available it is sometimes appropriate to hand over a situation that is getting too frustrating.

Khadijah

2/11/2017 01:16:52 pm

I was dealing with my little brother who at his younger ages was rough around the edges, I remember the feeling of being overwhelmed I had my mom take over when she arrived home because I needed a break and I needed to take some breaths

Andrea Ofiara

2/11/2017 04:42:11 pm

I walk away for a minute and take deep breathes and try to calm myself down with positive thoughts and ways i can help in the situation without it being harmful. If this still does not work i ask someone else to step in and offer help since i am not able to calm myself down and help.

Lizz F.

2/13/2017 12:49:12 pm

Done breathing exercises, paused before speaking, reminded myself of the power differences between us, chose my words more carefully, explained my frustrations to the child, and when absolutely necessary, asked for help/took a break/removed myself from the situation.

rukiya elmi

2/13/2017 02:26:07 pm

When i am with the children i am fully watch out my expression, attitude and words but sometimes it can get little too much so i take five minute fresh air and try to remember that i am teaching and i want fully and really the children to grow up in a healthy, long, positive life.

Heidi

2/20/2017 12:20:44 pm

I have never been that frustrated but I would suggest take a deep breath and to ask for help

sophia

2/24/2017 09:27:04 pm

I take a deep breath and think how can I tell the child to stop behaving bad without make the child feel bad. talk about the situation calmly.

james murphy

3/5/2017 03:44:19 pm

I have never felt about harming a child, there have been times when I could not control a couple of kids in preschool class and I had to call my supervisor for assistance. She was able to step in and get the children to lineup as about half the class took off running in the gym. I was a new teacher at the time and they were certainly testing their boundaries.

Jennifer Overmiller

3/8/2017 04:35:17 pm

I've never felt that i would ever hurt a child but i have been very flustered and overwhelmed by some children. what my co teacher and I do is once the child has become to difficult for one because they are just trying to be defiant and push buttons and be ridiculous in every way; we will switch and the other person with the clear head and mind can come talk with them and it'll be like a reset for the child and gives them the opportunity to calm down as well as the other teacher.

Karly Schroder

3/14/2017 10:59:19 pm

When I feel overwhelmed with the behavior of a child and have tried different ideas that haven't worked, I find it is helpful to ask for help. It gives you a chance to breathe, the child a chance to be seen from a new perspective, and the added energy of the helper can diffuse the situation.

Aubrey Clawson

3/21/2017 08:44:33 pm

I have never actually felt the urge to harm a child, there are times I am irritated with the children, but those are times that I need to step back and take a deep breath to make sure that I can respond to the child in a positive way.

Andrea Estola

4/3/2017 01:24:09 am

While I've never gotten to a point of wanting to a hurt a child, everyone has emotions and when "off track behavior" does happen I just try to remember these are kids I'm dealing with and they need my help and to make them feel safe and that I'm responsible adult they can turn to for support. Keeping that in mind I calmly talk to the child.

Liliana Camacho

4/4/2017 09:26:42 pm

Whenever I become frustrated over a situation I stop and take a deep breath and remind myself that I am not that kind of person.

Megan Rockstad

4/10/2017 09:39:47 pm

i have never felt the urge to harm a child. if i were to get upset however, i would take a deep breath and have someone takeover for me for a minute or two.

Jane Minifie

4/18/2017 09:07:15 pm

I signal to a co-worker that I need to switch places and get away from the situation. I tell the child that I have tried to help them, but can't at the moment so Teacher 2 is going to step in.

If the stress is constant or seems unmanageable, it's important to speak with a supervisor because burn out is very real!

Heather

4/29/2017 03:26:13 pm

Stop, take some deep breaths. If you still are feeling overwhelmed ask for some help from the director or other teachers.

Esther

5/3/2017 08:49:36 pm

I take a deep breath and calm myself down. I think about how my frustration could escalate the situation instead of helping it. Then I talk to the child in a quiet calm voice to help them resolve the situation. Sometimes I will ask a co-worker to step in and help.

Megan E White

6/5/2017 08:39:14 pm

Taking a step away and leaving the situation helps. Taking a breather and clearing your mind before coming back into the classroom is important.

Tierra

7/6/2017 11:34:31 pm

Never really felt this way about a child . But I'll take deep breaths and calm down

Ayita Berhane

8/12/2017 11:14:46 pm

I have never felt that I might harm a child, but I have felt so flustered that I have been close to tears. In that situation, I have asked the lead teacher to step in and help and mentioned that I just didn't know what to do. I have also gone into another room to let out my emotions and then re-collect myself while leaving another adult in charge.

Brittany Williams

8/31/2017 06:27:36 pm

I have never felt compelled to harm a child, if I do ever find myself overwhelmed I will step out for a bathroom break and return after a few minutes outside the classroom.

rachel illeene wieland

10/30/2017 01:02:32 pm

I have definitely never had the urge to harm my own child, let alone someone else child. And anyone who does feel this way shouldnt be working with children in the first place in my opinion.

Alice Chan

5/9/2018 11:15:37 pm

I will take a deep breath and calm myself down.

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