Scenario 4

Discussion: Parent Scenario 4 * Module 5 Page 17 (8)

6/13/2016

Scenario 4:

Dad is yelling at his son because the son does not want to stay at the child care center. Dad is extremely frustrated because he is late for work.

How might you handle this scenario?

82 Comments

Ashley Hanson

11/7/2018 01:29:44 pm

always smile with a happy heart and ask if i could take the childs hand and redirect him in something he may enjoy in the room

Melinda Tandiono

11/17/2018 01:31:35 pm

I would definitely do the same thing. I would ask the dad to just leave even if the child keeps on crying. Then I would ask their friends to play if he wants to. If not I will come up with a work that will calm himself, or to ask him to go outside for a little while.

Eva Fogarty

11/7/2018 07:38:42 pm

Scenario 4: Dad is yelling at child

I would handle this situation by taking charge. It is our job t be a relief for the parents and chaotic drop offs are quite common. I would assure the parent that I can take it from here (the child will forgive their dad!!) and take the child nd distract them/nurture them. Then speak with the father at the next meet and discuss how we can make smoother drop offs in the future.

Laura

12/8/2018 10:50:16 am

I agree i would take charge of the situation and assure the parent that i can handle the child and they will be in good hands. I will then remind the child that their dad will be there to pick them up later after work and try to get them distracted and involved in an activity. Later I would talk to the dad during pick up to try to work out an easier drop off less stressful to everyone and quicker.

Amanda Harris

12/17/2018 10:50:41 pm

Exactly, especially if the parent is going to be late you need to step in and help take the child so the parent can leave.

Anu Jaervinen

11/8/2018 11:28:20 am

I would start by approaching them by asking if I could help them. Next I would take eye contact with the child and talk to him with a calm and friendly voice and explain him how his daddy needs to go to work just like children go to school. I would help the child to say goodbye to his dad and hold him or hold his hand. I would introduce the child to an interesting activity or a friend.

Makenzie

12/6/2018 12:02:49 pm

I agree ask to help to see where you can fill in the dad’s time of frustration. Best way get the child distracted by playing with there favorite toy or other friends in the classroom. Telling the dad it’s ok to leave with a screaming child you got it.

kassidy cram

12/26/2018 07:39:54 pm

I agree, the dad is likely to stop yelling if a professional steps in and it would be good to calm the dad and child down, and to distract them both

Leilanie

11/8/2018 02:49:29 pm

Scenario 4
I would approach the child and dad with a smile and direct the child into other things so both of them will not get upset

Jessamy Thompson

11/8/2018 02:55:29 pm

Dad is stressed and rushed as well as his child. I would attempt to engage the child if they are willing. However, I would check with Dad to see if there is anyway that he could make time to get to school a little earlier so that he can spend a few extra minutes for a longer drop off in the morning.

Janae

11/8/2018 05:19:57 pm

I would reassure the dad that there's nothing to worry about. I'll look after the child then I'd get down to the child's level and let him know that I will take good care of him and his dad will be back to pick him up at the end of the day. Then I would suggest that we go and find and activity to do together

Trista Woody

11/9/2018 08:54:12 pm

In this scenario, I would calmly interject the situation. I would approach dad and child and tell him to say goodbye to dad. Tell child it’s going to be ok and try to distract him with playing with his friends or with an activity. Politely inform dad that it's best to stay calm in these situations and the child will calm down soon after dad leaves.

Walaa

11/11/2018 07:54:31 am

I would say oh look who’s here let’s go inside daddy is late for work and if you let your daddy go he will come and pick you up when he is off work. Say goodbye and say hello to your friends.

Pennie

11/13/2018 01:06:46 pm

I would ensure the father that this is normal for a child, but with the care center expertise the child will be in a jungle of fun in no time-.

Hailey

11/13/2018 02:26:16 pm

I would approach the child and let him know that he is going to be doing lots of fun activities and that his dad had to get going but will be back later to hear about what we did that day. I would lead the child to a fun toy/activity and let the dad know he is okay to leave and to maybe leave a little earlier next time so there's time for goodbyes.

Brianda Kukulka Heredia

11/13/2018 04:51:31 pm

I'd already have a relationship with the family, so I'd immediately walk to the little boy and talk in a a calm voice asking if he'd like to do something special. Tell him all the fun things that we have planned for the day. I also would let dad know he's in good hands, and it would be ok to drop him off and he is more then welcome to check in on his son whenever he wanted.

Clarisa

11/14/2018 08:18:38 pm

First off, I would handle this situation by taking charge. It is our job to be a relief for the parents. I would calmly advise dad with a smile that i can take his son no problem to an area where he would be most interested in playing or doing something that allows the son to redirect his attention.

jessie

11/15/2018 01:34:33 pm

I would take the child by the hand smile at the parent and say. hay hun daddy's gonna be late lets wave goodbye to him while he drives away to ease the situation for the parent and the child

Padmaja Kondeti

11/16/2018 01:38:28 pm

We will take care of child and ask dad that child is safe and its very common at this age. Your child will be alright after sometime when he will mingle with other kids ,so that the dad can control his frustation and leave happily from child care.

Jeannie R Pauly

11/16/2018 09:10:15 pm

First I would listen for a minute, I do not want to interrupt the dad. When I find a good time to step in I will try and talk with his son about how dad has to work and how important it is to go to work. I would then find a favorite toy of his and offer to play with him. I would ask dad to give him one last hug and to say goodbye. Throughout the week I would observe his schedule and see if there is a consistent routine or if mom and dad are dropping off sporadically. If there isn't a routine I would wait until pick up and offer some suggestions to the parents about keeping a steady routine and possibly finding a toy that will help him with the transition.

fateme hosseini nejad

11/17/2018 12:28:27 am

I would approach dad and child and tell him to say goodbye to dad.Throughout the week I would observe his schedule and see if there is a consistent routine or if mom and dad are dropping off sporadically

Taylor Meadows

11/18/2018 09:28:12 pm

I would first take the child off the dads hands and deal with the child so the dad can get to work. I would comfort the child and tell him about how fun the day will be. Then I would try to arrange a time to talk to dad and let him know that a better solution to getting the child to say goodbye would be to talk with the child at home about how much fun he will have at child care and encourage him to be excited about going. I would also suggest the dad getting there to drop off a little bit earlier so he won't be late for work.

Tiffany Goos

11/19/2018 10:28:38 am

offer to hold the child and help calm him down and re assure dad this is normal and that if he wants help with this that i can grab the child and hold him so he doesnt have to get so angry.

Susan Stehr

11/20/2018 12:00:57 pm

Help the dad as much as possible by talking with the child about what our day will be like and wave good by to dad in the window. I would then set up an appointment with the dad or e-mail some information ,if he is too busy, about how to make drop off smoother. Suggesting that he give himself a little more time with his son before leaving or maybe setting up some structured rituals if time is a factor. Maybe bringing a breakfast in sitting him down and then saying goodbye or 3 kisses and two hugs each time to help the child feel secure.

Laura Jakobsen

11/20/2018 07:47:30 pm

I would scoop the child up in a big hug, tell the dad he can leave, and calm the child down after the dad has left.

dinapriya

11/21/2018 11:19:57 am

11/8/2018 02:55:29 pm

Dad is stressed and rushed as well as his child. I would attempt to engage the child if they are willing. However, I would check with Dad to see if there is anyway that he could make time to get to school a little earlier so that he can spend a few extra minutes for a longer drop off in the morning.

FARNAZ HAMID

11/22/2018 09:30:21 am

I would definately handle the situation by taking charge.I tell the child that your dad is getting late and try to engage the child in some area/activity which he likes to do.I tell him that today we have lot of fun and you will enjoy with your friends.

Brittany

11/23/2018 10:57:21 am

Sceniro 1
Communicate with your director. Explain to them this isnt the 1st tome they were late just to notify them its happening. Talk to.the parent and let them know this isnt legal and we are suppose to call child services.

McKenzie

11/24/2018 01:35:33 pm

I would ask the dad to leave and ask some of the child’s friends to play with him to distract him.

mariyana marble

11/24/2018 03:33:46 pm

I would greet both the dad and the child in a calm voice. I will let the dad say what he wants to say for a bit and then invite the child to come to "Teacher." If that doesn't work I will let him know how much fun we will have with all his friends and projects we are going to do. If that still doesn't work I will tell the child daddy will be back to come later to pick him/her up and ask the dad if I could take the child. If yes i have permission I will know the child needs to shown a little tough love by leading him/her to their friends to play even if the child is still crying. Most kids still cry when parents are present. This is not child abuse. This is teaching children kindly parents can't be there at all times.

Beatriz Patlan

11/25/2018 12:13:42 pm

I would approach them and talk to the child with a calm voice and explaining that dad needs to go and that he will came back after work and allow the child to give dad a hug. I will give a child a hug or I will take him/her to a fun activity. I also reassure the parent that his child is going to be fine and if he has some concerns, he can call later on to check on his child.

Cynthia Lopez

11/25/2018 09:42:22 pm

This is an excellent way to deal with the situation. It helps calm down the father and the son.

Cynthia Lopez

11/25/2018 09:41:29 pm

I would warmly talk to the father and tell him that I would help assist him in calming his son. I would assure him that all children have a hard time leaving their parent. I would have him say good bye to his son and I assure the dad that I would calm him down when he leaves.

Adiara Diabate

11/27/2018 09:32:39 pm

I would approach them and distract the son while signaling dad to start leaving. Then I will point dad to the son and have him say goodbye while assuring him that the dad will be back.

Cassandra Rains

11/27/2018 10:12:51 pm

taking charge of the situation. grabbing the attention of the child to ease him into staying at the center.

Emily Anderson

11/28/2018 02:50:29 pm

I would discuss the policy with the parent and inquire as to the problem to assist with problem solving and a plan for what to do if she is running behind. If she is in a hurry, I would find a time to sit down and discuss in a meeting when she has time to listen and communicate without being rushed.

Britny Derton

11/28/2018 09:28:53 pm

Scenario 4: Dad yelling at child

I would help the child by finding a toy or a book that they are interested in and try and get them engaged in something so Dad can get to work. I would try to help on the rest of the days as well until the child is fully comfortable and willing to be left at the childcare.

Erin Alvord

11/28/2018 09:32:43 pm

I would find a way to distract the child. find a toy or book that the child will enjoy so that the father can slip away or I would take the child into my arms and sit them until they had calmed down

Amber Michelle

11/30/2018 09:52:22 pm

I would be responsive to what the child like and calmly comfort him and direct him to an activity or book. I reassure the dad it's will be ok and reassure the child he will see his family and dad very soon and we will have a great day.

Dean

12/3/2018 03:08:44 pm

#If the mom has been late picking up the child more than once I would charge the mom $5 a minute every time she was late after the first time
I would talk to the mom and tell her if she is late again she will give up her place in daycare

Sheridan Zimmerer

12/6/2018 12:02:41 am

I would assure the father that I would take care of his child and that I would talk to him about coming to school. I would strive to be a peacemaker in the situation.

Nicole Marie Zimmerer

12/6/2018 12:02:59 am

Lead the conversation with a positive demeanor and voice, encouraging the father to go and that I would talk to the child, and encouraging a friendly goodbye from the father reassuring the child that he would return after work.

lily

12/6/2018 12:54:22 pm

karla

12/7/2018 10:48:23 am

I would take over the situation to make it easier on the child first of all and then the parent that is frustrated and late for work

Cameron Gruensfelder

12/8/2018 11:59:09 am

I would calming interject myself into the situation. If possible I would pick up the child and nurture him. I would distract the child with something I know they like (reading Cat in the Hat)

Robyn

12/9/2018 07:46:58 pm

This situation needs to be defused quickly. I would take charge by walking over and placing myself near the child, speaking softly and reassuring them while redirecting them to a different activity.

Amanda Bird

12/9/2018 10:25:21 pm

I would kindly and politely pull Mrs. Hopkins aside and explain how coming late is difficult on the staff and that in order to continue childcare I need her to be here before closing time.

Kalab Holm

12/9/2018 11:18:09 pm

I would talk to the child and see if he would like to help me water plants and or have him help me throughout the day to keep his mind off dad so he can enjoy his day

jennifer

12/10/2018 02:07:38 pm

When a parent is yelling at the child, they are modeling behavior that we don't encourage in the school. I would remove the child from the situation and assure the father that I can help his have a happy productive day. I would follow up at pick-up or with a note asking to schedule time to talk about making transitions easier for the family.

Jessica Montes

12/10/2018 02:16:17 pm

I would take the child and offer him or her to help me with something then later maybe ask the parent what we could do together to make drop off easier

Ami McGaughan

12/10/2018 02:44:17 pm

I would ask the parent if I could assist them in anyway and offer maybe to just escort the child into the room and distract him for a minute and let the parent know that the child will be fine soon

martha rocio garcia de leon

12/10/2018 06:39:02 pm

I would help the dad whit the child and take care from there the situation , letting the dad free to go and taking care the child with distraction and help the child comfort and caring.

Kaitlynn McCabe

12/10/2018 08:58:57 pm

I would take charge and go up and pick up child and comfort him and tell him that daddy will be there to pick him up later.

Angelia Way

12/12/2018 10:05:55 am

I would take the child and tell the father that it is very normal for kids to act like this but he will be okay. I would tell him to have a good day at work and then redirect the child in the classroom.

Suman Dogra

12/13/2018 11:43:07 pm

Sometime parents get frustrated because of work and families responsibility and it became hard for them to maintain work live balance. Firstly, I would calm the child and ensure he get conformable in the classroom and after I’ll talk separately with families to understand their issue and try to help them to overcome the issue so we don’t have same situation in future.

kendra

12/15/2018 09:31:53 am

I would gently interrupt and assure dad that his son will be fine, he will calm down shortly and give him permission to leave for work. I would then talk to the child and say dad will be back after .... and give the days abbreviated schedule.

Jessica Rodriguez-Diaz

12/16/2018 05:37:28 pm

I would quickly make my way to the father and son, warmly greet them, and get eye level to the child and start talking to him. I would talk to him about the activities we have planned for the day and ask what he would like to go play. I would take the child's hand, reassure him dad will be back and tell dad to have a great day at work and lead the child to an activity.

Amanda Harris

12/17/2018 10:54:37 pm

I chose scenario 3: the mom upset about a ruined shirt.
I would handle this situation by explaing to the mother exactly what happened. If the paint shirts where forgot or unavailable or whatever the case was that caused the child to get it all over her shirt. If it was just my choice not to put on a paint shirt I would admit that it was my fault and that I should have put on a paint shirt. I would say I am very sorry and tell the parent it won't happen again. Also, depending on if it was truly my fault or just a freak accident, I would also offer to pay to replace the shirt.

vheyanne

12/18/2018 04:02:48 pm

its a morning drop off so just like the parent the kid is probably having a just as rough morning. i would walk over to the father and wait for the right moment to ask him if he would like me to take his child so he can get on his way to work and see if there would be a time that we could talk freely and maybe remedy the situation with setting up an earlier drop off or whatever i could do to help the transition be smoother. handling the child would be the easy part as all would take is getting the kids mind off of the fact that his dad is leaving by letting him know that he will be there to pick him up when he gets done with work and having the child play with one of his friends or one of the many activities the child care center has to offer.

Hayley Aman

12/18/2018 06:33:24 pm

Offer to take the child from the parent and take them and assure them that it will be okay and habe a good day. I would take the kid nurture them make sure they are okay and then introduce them to a new activity. Thndicuss at a later time how to make drop offs smoother.

acacia gohn

12/21/2018 09:59:08 pm

I would calmly take the child and reassure the child that dad will be back. I would be up beat and take him to an area where he could play and get his mind off of his dad leaving.

Lusine, Simonyan

12/21/2018 10:48:18 pm

I do not see anything bad here, everything can happen and we can all be late. In my practice, many times there was such a situation and I always said with a smile that everything is in order and I understand.

Lorissa

12/22/2018 01:51:47 pm

I would take the situation into my own hands as being the childcare provider. I would let the parent leave and let them know it is okay, and inform the child that their parent will be back for pickup

reshma

12/23/2018 05:53:17 pm

would approach the child and dad with a smile and assure dad that we would take care of child and direct the child into other things so both of them will not get upset

Meghan Chang

12/24/2018 04:33:37 pm

I would handle this situation by giving both the parent and the child a nice smile and carefully taking the child in my arms and letting the child know that hi father will pick him back up later today and then redirect the child's attention by interesting him in an activity we have in the classroom.

Yumiko Sorensen

12/24/2018 08:26:14 pm

I would talk to the dad calmly to hold the child and explain to the child how we will have fun activity today then ask other staff to care of the child to move to the classroom. Then, I talk with the dad giving him empathy how he was upset because of being late for his work and give him we can set up another time to talk about what we can help him in the future.

Inez Labrier

12/25/2018 12:56:41 pm

I would ask if I could help in any way. I would take the child from his arms and hopefully re-direct the father to being able to leave and console the child with no blame or acknowledgement of the behavior other than with understanding and support. Later I would text, call or email the parent if we could schedule a meeting. While in the meeting away from other children alone I would hope to open the conversation up andj find the underlying cause of the incident. Hoping to resolve future behavior similar to this offering community groups and (in my mind hope I don't have to report him to child services)

maira y rosas

12/25/2018 06:13:10 pm

4)
the first step i would do is calm the parent down and approach the child in a calm way and let him know of all the activities that are planned for the day and assure the parent that their child is in good hands

Alyssa Jo Rivera

12/26/2018 01:21:05 pm

In this situation, speed is important. I would quickly try to diffuse the situation by assuring the dad that his child will be alright and I would instruct the child to say good bye. I would then redirect the child to an activity they enjoy, or have a calm and comforting conversation with the child about all of the activities we have planned for the day.

Camille Le Men

12/27/2018 04:16:54 pm

I would acknowledge the child's frustration and console him, both for him and to show the dad that it is not something to dismiss. Then, I would ask for a stuffed animal or familiar object and instruct the goodbye ritual, remind the child that their parent will come back at the end of the day and direct the child to a play area he likes.

I would talk more extensively about the incident again at a moment the parent has more time. Either at pickup or during a specifically planned time and I would also recall the dad that it is important to children to express their big feelings and that the fact that he expresses it shows he feels safe around him. Also, that we understand that unexpected sometimes happens but as much as possible they should plan for extra time during drop-off as transitions are quite traumatic for some children.

Aubri Weber

12/28/2018 09:37:27 am

I would step in and talk to the child about all the fun things we would be doing in the time that they would be there. Then I would talk to the dad about other options to cheer up his child when its time for drop off.

Ye Tao

12/28/2018 03:59:23 pm

I will try to calm the child down first by telling him what projects are awaiting for him and I'm so excited to do with him. And then I will talk to the dad to be more patient when dropping his kid off because yelling will just make things worse.

catherine burke

12/29/2018 08:37:24 am

I would listen carefully for a moment to hear if there are any other topics coming up in their conversation ("Mommy is sick," "I've been late every day thins week!"). I would look at the dad to acknowledge his efforts and "ask" if I can intervene. I would then probably ask him outlaid to model for the kiddo if he was on his way to work, if mommy was ok at home while we are at school and work etc. Then I can more easily turn to the child who is now in my arms and look at them, say goodbye to daddy modeling, "See you soon Daddy". Then say to dad with a smile, "Let's talk later about how I can help more in the morning."

Chelsea

12/29/2018 10:47:23 am

I would first reassure the parent that the child's behavior is normal. Then I would engage the child in an activity while the parent left.

Shelbie Arteaga

12/29/2018 05:04:58 pm

I would comfort and help the child calm down. I would reassure the parent that everything would be alright and that this is normal. after the parent left I would continue to comfort the child until they were calm. I would then make a note if how long it took for them to calm down and let the parent know how the situation went.

jennilee flores

12/29/2018 07:23:51 pm

I would approach the father and ask if he needs help then try to calm down the child and tell him daddy will be back later once he's off, reassure him that everything will be okay. If child doesn't seem to calm down I will try to distract him while his father walks out of the door

Anna Bychkova

12/30/2018 03:37:03 am

Screaming is never an appropriate way to handle frustration, and could be disruptive at least and at most disturbing to any children present for this scenario. I would let the father know gently that he can leave the child with and we will be alright. I might point out that the classroom is a "calm" and "safe" environment and that "we don't want Dad to be late for work." I might pick up the child or take them by the hand, smile, say goodbye to the father, and walk away to find a distraction and comfort the child. I would seek guidance about how to communicate with the father from my lead and school director, suggesting that a meeting be set up to check in with the family and discuss strategies for drop-off.

Noelle Low

12/30/2018 12:56:13 pm

I would approach the situation and ask to help, explain to the child that dad needs to go to work now and reassure him that dad will be back to get him later, and then redirect the child to an activity while the father exits the center.

brkti mihtsintu

12/30/2018 01:57:39 pm

I would attract the child by what he likes so he can stay. It could be toys or games.

Hannah MacDonald

12/30/2018 03:25:32 pm

I would help the child to calm down by distracting him and let the father go.

Cindee

12/31/2018 08:58:58 am

I would let the dad know that I know how challenging drop offs can be in the morning sometimes and that I will take care of his son from here and that he can just go ahead and leave for work. I would take the son and find something we can do to together move on from what just happened. I would talk to dad in private or make a phone call to him about how we can come up with some ideas to try so that his drop offs can be a little easier for he and his son.

phoeurn

1/4/2019 11:40:20 am

I can let him know that I understand and can relate. I would talk to the child and let the child know that dad needs to go to work and to give dad a hug. Can calm child down by asking what the child would like to play with and do.

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