Scenario 4

Discussion: Parent Scenario 4 * Module 5 Page 17 (8)

6/13/2016

Scenario 4:

Dad is yelling at his son because the son does not want to stay at the child care center. Dad is extremely frustrated because he is late for work.

How might you handle this scenario?

49 Comments

Alyssa Hayden

4/2/2018 03:41:48 pm

I would acknowledge the frustration the father is experiencing and then I would ask if he minds if I step in and provide his son with the support he needs to acclimate to the classroom, giving the father a chance to compose himself and to say goodbye so he can get to work.

Jessica Wilder

4/3/2018 10:32:31 am

I would calmy offer the idea to the dad that i can take his son and he can get to work, i would offer his son something that i know he enjoys every much. and help him calm down. and talk to him and remind him what the plan is for the day and that his dad has to go to work to make money for them to do all sorts of fun stuff for when they are not at school or work.

Cynthia Cole

4/4/2018 09:41:11 am

I would come over sensing the fathers increasing anger and anxiety. I would get down to the child's level and let them know that their father has to go to work but he will be back to pick him up later. I will let the child know that I am here to help him all day so if he ever feels sad or lonely or upset or if he needs anything, he can come and find me and I will help him. I would then let Dad know that it is ok to go, I will take care of the child, he will be ok and that I can contact Dad later with an update if Dad would like.

Elizabeth Hermance

4/4/2018 02:14:16 pm

I would calmly walk over to the father and his child and tell the father that it is normal for a child to be scared and nervous on his first day. and to calmly state to the father that their child will be ok and that i would get their child calmed down while he leaves to work. then i would get to the child's eye level and tell him/her that everything will be ok. daddy will be back after work to get you. i know everything is scary on the first day but we will have a fun day. and ask the child what he likes to do and enjoys . then find an activity or the toys that the child is interested in and loves. when the child is calmed down then i would write the father some techniques on how to say goodbyes to their child and to work on separation anxiety

Kim Magana-Morfin

4/8/2018 06:20:27 pm

I would acknowledge the father's frustration and offer to setup a routine for drop offs that may make the process smoother for both the parent and the child. I would also engage with the son to help him transition into the room more easily so he could start his day of learning. Since the father was already late and very upset, I would follow up with the parent to setup a plan to make drop offs easier going forward.

Kassi Anderson

4/8/2018 10:23:50 pm

I would offer to take his son and try to calm him down by suggestiong something that I know he enjoys doing. I would acknowledge to dad that this is normal for children to want to leave with their parents and is hard and insure dad that he will be in good hands and will be okay, also offering the child a quiet story to get him settled in and relaxed to calm him down.

Litonya Ritter

4/9/2018 07:54:51 pm

I would approach the father and help him by providing a distraction for the child and asking them what they want to do today. I would make sure that the child would still be able to say bye as I gently pick them up and wave to the father with them.

Gabriela Morris

4/9/2018 08:55:01 pm

I would give the child a hug and assure him that we have fun activities planned and that his dad will be back later. I would acknowledge the dad's concern and let him know that he may leave even if the child is upset.

jackie shindano

4/12/2018 10:44:51 am

If I was in this situation I would approach the kid and dad and do what I could to try and distract the boy from his dad, try and get him interested in a game or in what the other kids are doing. If this didnt work I would also ask the dad in a good manner that the calmer and more positive he is with the kid the more comfortable he will feel to stay so if he just took a second talk to his son and said goodbye in a good manner then I would give the baby special attention after his dad left till the boy is settle in and better

Sherrie Jimenez

4/14/2018 09:16:08 pm

I would walk over and take the child by the hand to try and move them away from dad and toward an activity that will get their attention. Assure dad that we are ok and say goodbye. If the child cries, I will let dad know I'm ok with it and I will give him a call later to let him know how things are going. Then try to assure the child that dad will be back and while we are waiting, we will have a lot of fun.

haneen-alyasin@hotmail.com

4/18/2018 07:55:19 pm

I would pull the child aside and distract him with something so it's a little easier for the father to leave. However perhaps at pickup time where dad maybe isn't in a big rush, I would speak to him on the side letting him know how well the day went for his child and then saying something like: I noticed it was a little difficult this morning dropping your child off, is there something we could do help? I wanted to suggest to you maybe starting a routine of coming in five-ten minutes early to give both of you a little more time and a less stressful drop off. And of course we're here to help in any way.
So the point is letting the father know I am aware of his frustration and I'm offering help. Plus I'm giving him ideas on some thing he may try to make the mornings easier for both of them.

Heather

4/19/2018 02:18:15 am

I would walk up to the child and ask him how his night was and if he got a good night sleep. I would hold his hand and tell him that everything is going to be okay and that we will have a fun day as well as explain to him some of the things we will be doing today in class. And ask him if he would like to come play with some of the other kids that are playing with cars.

Judi Richardsi

4/19/2018 03:28:20 pm

A parent conference is definitely in order, but to meet the need "right now," I would anticipate the child's coming so I could meet the child and dad (trying to meet before the confrontation). I would have things ready so child could see the fun and safety and security he will have once his dad leaves him (i.e. puppets for him to handle and puppets to even talk to the son while being left off). I would speak gently to child and also to dad about whether this is "normal" behavior and has happened with other children. I would share how child gets along and has fun after dad has gone.

Kelsy Henry

4/20/2018 11:29:15 am

I would calmly ask the dad if I could take the child and hold them and talk to them quietly and try to distract them so the dad could compose himself before saying goodbye and we could get the child to focus on something else

Monique Rellis

4/21/2018 10:13:17 pm

I would tell the child that their dad has to leave and try to redirect the to something else. Later in the afternoon I would tell the dad that the following day we will do the same thing to make drop offs easier on both of them.

Karen

4/22/2018 03:44:52 pm

I would offer to the dad that i can take his son so he can get to work, and ask dad when he gets there to call so his son can talk to him. I would offer his son something that i know he enjoys playing with help him calm down, and talk to him to remind him what the plan is for the day and that his dad has to go to work and will see him this evening at pick up.

Megan Hall

4/22/2018 11:05:05 pm

Scenario 1: When the parent picks up this time I would gently remind them that they've been late a few times recently and let them know we want to meet to talk about how we can help. Later I would call them to set up a time to talk and at the meeting I would share their tardiness records, share the policy about picking up late. But mostly I would ask them how I can help - is there a certain cause for being late? can we modify anything? should we make a back up plan for when you can't be here on time? etc.

tisha mathews

4/26/2018 01:23:56 pm

help child in letting the dad leave to work

SARA LEE

4/27/2018 11:37:19 am

I will first calm the dad down as much as possible with encouraging words and message that it is not only for his case but common happening and assist the child feel comfortable for staying at the center. When the situation becomes ok, still I will observe if there is any cause that the child doesn't want to stay in the center. If it is not from the center, and the child persistently having that issue, I might ask conference time with the parent to discuss what can help the child.

Shannon Van Hoof

4/27/2018 01:43:08 pm

First off I wouldn't allow this to escalate to the point where the dad is yelling at the child and is late for work.
If the child was refusing to let go dad, I would simply go up to the child and either take their hand or pick the child up and say good bye to dad ands walk away, go sit down with the child if s/he was upset and remind the child that their dad will come back after work like he always does and share with the child the fun things we will be doing that day.

Daria Hrytsyuk

4/27/2018 02:16:43 pm

I'd try to involve a child into some activity, because when children don't want to let go their parents - only games or interesting toys can help them

Sydney Lestage

4/29/2018 08:57:37 pm

I would try to get the child distracted and point him toward the other kids that are having fun. Dad should then be able to slip out without being late for work and I can work with the child. I would probably set him up with a place at a table by me to make him feel comfortable and we could color together.

alexis pablo

4/30/2018 12:43:22 am

I wouldn't let it get to the point where dad yells at the child. As soon as they got there I would greet them allow them to say goodbyes and direct the child to a fun activity and give them love and affection.

monika kwasigroch

4/30/2018 08:54:06 pm

i would give the child a hug and assure him that we have fun activities planned and that his dad will be back later. I would acknowledge the dad's concern and let him know that he may leave even if the child is upset.

Teagan Aune

5/1/2018 01:04:05 pm

I would take the child away from the dad and calmly take to him about what the expectations are for the day. I would tell the dad to leave the room so that I could start to get the child to calm down without having the dad there for him to run back to. I would calm the child down by setting them up with an activity they like and getting them excited about all the fun things that were planned for the day. Then I would explain that after he was done having fun, his dad would be back to take him home.

Kayla Marie Carper

5/1/2018 03:08:11 pm

I would come over to the situation talk to the father stating that that he can go to work and I will take care of the Sun and find different things to help the Sun come down also explained to the Sun that is that has to go to work so let's go find something that he enjoys . Then when the dad gets back to pick the kid up I will go I will talk with the dad and let him know different ways to how we could ease the child into him leaving to work so he doesn't have to be late

Tiffany

5/1/2018 05:25:06 pm

I would calmly approach the son and his father, reassure the child that it'll only be for a few hours, offer a hug or the child's favorite activity while the father is able to sneak out. I would also reassure the father before he slips out that his son has fun, he just a upset for a little bit after he leaves.

binna.cho

5/4/2018 12:14:03 am

I would recommend him to arrive the childcare center ten minutes early and stay with the child for awhile and assure dad would be back.

Toya Hill

5/4/2018 03:20:30 am

I would inform the father that I am aware of his frustration and that everything is going to be okay. It is normal for a child to want to stay with their families and I would then get down to the child's eye level and comfort them to let them know I understand how they feel and I recognize that they are upset for departing from their father. I would take the child by the had and redirect the child by asking if they could please come help me set an activity that they may like to do. I would then again, let the father know that everything is going to be okay and they may leave for work.

Kira S link

5/5/2018 11:26:13 pm

I would try to get the child to walk with me while I get ready to redirect them to their friends playing at another center while reassuring the child they would see them later

Shaleese Enderton

5/6/2018 02:48:04 pm

i would explain to the dad that this is normal and go get the child and take him to an activity that he likes and try to distract him so his dad can get to work on time

Alexis Brooke Mumey

5/8/2018 09:59:08 am

I would approach the child and begin to calm him down maybe by distracting him at first with a game of I spy or asking him if he had a good morning with his daddy. I would try and soothe his anxiety, while subtly encouraging the father to go on his way, by going over the day with him and telling him all he has to look forward to before his dad returns.

Cassidy

5/8/2018 09:33:30 pm

I would talk to the child and explain that Dad needs to leave for work and that he will be picked up later that day. I would then redirect the child and return to the father, if he is still there, and explain that it is really common for children to feel separation anxiety and it can be quite frustrating but there are ways to combat it. I would pack a handout in the child's bag that explain ways to ease separation anxiety.

Calia delgadillo

5/9/2018 10:18:27 pm

I would approach to the parent and the child, and directly talk to the child and explain that his parent has to leave for work give the child of what he can do, and then come back to the parent, talk to him and encourage him to leave,knowing that his child will be okay.

Stephanie Hopkins

5/10/2018 03:02:46 pm

I would assist the father by redirecting his child to another area so he can leave for work. I would however request that he plan to stay a little longer at pick-up or arrange a time outside of pick-up/drop-off to discuss a plan to transition the child to smoother good-byes. For example, if the father can arrive 10-15 minutes earlier to provide assurance to his child that he is safe and will return (thus the child will be calmed and the father will not be rushed to get to work).

Helen Wong

5/13/2018 04:44:34 pm

I would approach calmly the father and child and acknowledge that transitions can be hard for both of them. I can help the parent by having the child say goodbye to dad and direct him to his favorite activity or engage him in conversation. I would model calmness and acknowledge feelings and reassurance to the child.

jazmine

5/13/2018 08:50:32 pm

I would approach the parent and try to help the situation by asking the child nicely if he would like to join us and start a conversation with the child as we walk away and join the class.

Aanisah

5/13/2018 10:59:59 pm

I would be understanding towards the fathers feeling understand he is upset I would calmly ask the father if I could try to calm the child so he can be on his way, i usually sing a song to the kid or set them in the soft area and talk calmly to them and rub their head/ear to comfort them and let them feel safe.

Kovi Altamirano

5/15/2018 11:56:54 pm

Scenario 1:
This is the third time in the last two weeks that Mrs. Hopkins has picked up her child late. Today she did not arrive until 20 minutes after closing time.
How might you handle this scenario?

I would remind Mrs. Hopkins of our closing time, and remind her that if a child is picked up late there might be a late fee added to their overall bill. I would let Mrs. Hopkins know that I will not add a late fee this time, but next time I will be forced to.
I would also brainstorm with Mrs. Hopkins to understand why she has been late, and see if we could come to a solution together to avoid her being late in the future.

Shelby

5/16/2018 12:43:52 pm

I would talk to the son and tell him that his dad has to leave for work and will be back later to pick him up. I would also tell the son that we will have lots of fun. Then I would distract the son with a toy and go play with him while his dad leaves for work.

Meaghan

5/16/2018 10:25:30 pm

Scenario 4:
I would politely walk up and offer my help to invite the son over to join in on an activity or pick something that he would like to do so that dad can leave and go to work, but before the dad leaves I would make sure that they both said goodbye to each other.

Emily frisk

5/19/2018 12:01:49 pm

Scenario 1-
I would let the parent know that the tardiness policy in our parent handbook allows for up to 2 late pickups before we start to charge a fee for late pick ups. I would also ask them if there is anything we can help with as far as referring to services or arranging another way to make the standard pick up time possible for them. If needed I would explain to them that it's important as a business and personally as a teacher that I have time off to be ready for another day of care and that our business hours are important to our relationship.

Javona

5/19/2018 09:36:59 pm

I would calmly tell the dad that I get the frustration and offer to take his son to a center and have him do an activity while I talk with his dad. Then I would ask to father what the child is into at home so I can incorporate it in the classroom. I would also right a report of the sons day for the father at pick up.

Rachel Antilla

5/20/2018 09:39:22 am

I believe that this situation happens more often than not. I would help the Dad by walking over to the child happy to see him and offer a big hug and tell him about all the fun activities planned for the day. I would remind him that his dad will be back later once he is done with work. I would acknowledge the dad's concern and tell him that this is very common. I would tell that Dad it is okay to leave and by the time he gets to the car his child will be so busy having fun and we doesn't have to worry.

Jaiden

5/20/2018 06:15:42 pm

I would greet the child enthusiastically and let them know about all the fun things to do that day or something yummy we get to have for lunch. Then I would distract the child with a toy or activity that I know they love while the father sneaks out behind us

Amanda Sanders

5/21/2018 04:48:33 pm

I would look at the father and acknowledge his frustration, and ask if I could step in to maybe alleviate the situation. I would then also suggest coming in earlier to give the child a little longer to transition into the idea of the father leaving.

Terri Hollis

5/22/2018 01:04:15 am

The best way to deal with a parent who comes late more often than usual is to eventually start charging them which will help them start to come on time.

Lisa

5/23/2018 10:48:16 am

I would suggest to the dad that I would like to help, and tell the dad to calm down and help the son to go to the class and play with others.

Lanna

5/27/2018 03:39:18 pm

For scenario four, I would acknowledge and validate how the father feels, I would take the child, allow them to say their goodbyes, assure the parent that we will come up with a plan for next time during pick up and bring the child to an area away from the door, calming them down and try to get them engaged in an activity

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