Scenario 2

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6/1/2016

Scenario 2 :
The family was very upset when they came to pick up their son and found him dressed as a princess. They say they’re worried about him being teased and/or not understanding appropriate “male” behavior.

Using positive communication techniques, how would you handle this scenario?

94 Comments

Yesenia Perez

11/7/2018 09:49:42 pm

In this scenario i would address the parents concern and also try to explain to them that the child is learning gender roles and identity

kyla barkley

12/16/2018 11:06:30 am

I agree with you 100% that is exactly what I would say. I feel that it is important for kids to learn gender roles and be able to express themselves.

Cinthya Viguerias

11/7/2018 11:49:09 pm

I would make sure to listen to the parents and their concern, and let them know that the center is a safe place for children to express themselves, no bullying or teasing is tolerated. I would make sure the parents felt heard but I would also explain to them that their son is at an age where imagination and creativity comes in all sorts of ways.

Alexis

12/3/2018 09:59:17 am

yes

Beverly Starr

11/8/2018 09:29:24 am

I would explain it to the parents and reassure them that playing dress up is very natural and fun for children

Sheridan Turner

11/8/2018 04:07:50 pm

I would focus on praising their child’s imagination and acknowledging that all play, including dress up, is educational for children.

Noelle

11/8/2018 07:23:41 pm

I would first listen to the families concerned so that they feel like they have been heard and understood, then I would explain that it is very normal and helpful for children to play different roles and experience with dress up. Explain that many other boys in the class do the same thing and playing dress up and exploring is important in forming the child's sense of identity

Cassandra Rains

11/9/2018 10:55:58 am

The family was very upset when they came to pick up their son and found him dressed as a princess. They say they’re worried about him being teased and/or not understanding appropriate “male” behavior.

I would listen to and acknowledge the parents concerns. Reminding them that we don't allow bullying; but encourage children to learn who they are. Children often dress up as people they look up to, they imitate their role models; by doing so, it teaches them how to look through the eyes of another person. Also, if the child feels comfortable to express himself by dressing as the opposite sex, it means he feels safe, which is important for children to have positive growth and development.

William Caruthers

11/9/2018 03:06:40 pm

I would explain to the parents that it is completely normal for a young male child to play this way, this is how they learn and explore who they are and what and how they feel. the same way a young lady dresses u as a baseball or football player. It simply gives them a chance to discover who they are for themselves.

Gretchen

11/10/2018 11:13:46 am

I would first listen to the parents and hear where their concern is coming from. I would listen without waiting to respond, but really listen. Their concern might come from a place different then what your expecting them to say. Maybe they aren't worried about gender norms as much as they are worried about their child being bullied. As a teacher if you are too quick to respond, you might miss the point that the parents are making and also miss out on an opportunity to show the parents that you can be trusted to really listen to them. If the parents are concerned about gender norms, I would very delicately explain to them that at this age a child is playing and exploring. They are following their peers, who at this age are typically curious about all the toys and dress up clothes in the classroom just like their own child is. That in their eyes their is no gender norm, there is just new toys to play with. If they are worried about a child being bullied, I would acknowledge their concern but also again explain that at this age this is typically the type of play you would see in most kids and that his peers are also playing with all the different dress up clothes

lexi wasell

11/10/2018 12:07:41 pm

i see where the parents are coming from but i would explain to them that nothing is wrong with them wanting to wear a dress such as a girl wanting to wear a fireman outfit. i would explain that its completely normal for a child to want to wear something else just like its okay got a child to play with dolls or trucks

kayla ranta

11/10/2018 03:18:04 pm

I would first want to make sure that the parents feel heard, understood and that the teacher is willing to come along side them to insure that the parents and child are happy. It is also important to explain to the parents that it is very normal for young children to be curious and interested in exploring when it comes to play and that the daycare and teacher don't allow bullying in the classrooms.

Jennifer Martinez

11/11/2018 03:14:53 pm

Under disappointing circumstances, it is important to hear and listen to the parents thoughts on the situation. Following along, I would understand their unhappiness to their child's play choice by dressing in a princess dress, along with providing them with information that at their age children want to explore with all play available to them in the classroom. In addition, society and gender standards are not applicable at a young, so we allow them to play with what is available to them as long as they are having fun doing so. Comparing that girls also enjoy playing with legos and trucks, may help them understand that toys do not necessarily define who they are. They are involving themselves in pretend play, increasing their creativity and imagination.

Meseret

11/11/2018 03:39:06 pm

First I would not rush explain to the parents, instead I would wait and listen to what the parents have to say. Then I would explain that it is normal for children to play as different characters and dress up. Also many other male children in the class play dress up all the time and bulling is not tolerated in my center, so I would from the parent that their child is safe.

Ginger Clapper

11/11/2018 03:58:29 pm

A parent who is upset is most likely to need your understanding and listening ear as they relay their worries and concerns. It would also be important to reassure the parent that biting is a common issue that can be dealt with in a positive manner. Also,confidently discussing a game plan to address this issue may go a long way to help calm the parent and give them encouragement.

Brenda Figueroa

11/11/2018 04:18:41 pm

I will first listen to parents concerns, and also ill try to explain parents that kids at this age are very curios about everything and that its completely normal to do this things,kids are just exploring .but together we can find a solution for this if the parent still not happy with this behavior .

kassidy cram

12/17/2018 07:24:55 pm

i agree with your comment, I would say that it is very age appropriate to explore feelings and body parts and i would explain that it is good to deal with it both at home and at school, because consistency is key.

Charles Shevlin

11/12/2018 09:56:02 am

I would listen to the concern of the parent. I would explain to them that it is okay for a male child to wear dresses and such, just as girls wear masculine clothing, they are discovering who they are. I would also explain that we have a no bullying policy as well.

Britny Derton

11/12/2018 02:26:22 pm

I would listen to the parents' thoughts and concerns, assure them that it is very normal for a young boy to dress in dresses and pretend, it helps them expand their imaginations. I would assure them that teasing is not tolerated and that all children play dress up, it helps them find who they are.

Sheryl Johnson

11/12/2018 09:05:39 pm

I would first start with explaining to the family that we really try to address teasing as a behavior that is unkind and not appropriate in the class. I would then explain I understand their concern however it is very normal for boys to dress up especially if their friends are doing it. Curiosity is a very natural part of discovering one's self and that is a very healthy behavior and there should be no cause for concern at this time.

Brianda Kukulka Heredia

11/13/2018 12:27:38 pm

I would hear the families concerns without interruption, then I would let them know that children have great imaginations and what their child is doing is using his creative side of play. What their child is doing is completely ok, and is actually typical child behavior. Nothing to be concerned about.

Nicole

11/13/2018 12:41:56 pm

I would acknowledge the parent's feelings but assure them that this is the child's way of learning gender identity and expression. I would also assure them that no bullying or teasing in any form is acceptable in this classroom and would be put to a stop immediately. I would tell them that play is educational but listen to the parents if they have a specific way they want to go about this situation.

Krista Webb

11/13/2018 01:34:12 pm

I would listen to the parents concerns and then reassure them that dress up and role play is something that children do to figure out different roles in life. They often dress as someone they admire.

Katie Hosler

11/13/2018 03:06:41 pm

In this scenario, I would first empathize with the parents letting them know I understand their reaction to seeing their male child in female dress is not something the like to see and that's okay. Then, I would proceed to explain that their child is exploring concepts of identity and gender roles. Explain that the school is accepting of the child's interest in female dress. That children need to develop a positive self-identity in order to thrive in school and life, which is what their child is doing. I would ask if they had any questions, and answer them all to the best of my knowledge. Then would end by seeing if the parents wanted to be involved in the classroom for a short dress up play time with their child and teacher, to show that it is a healthy exploration.

Susan Adhikaram

11/14/2018 12:44:39 am

I would first listen and explain the parents that it is completely normal for children to play as different characters and dress up, which will help them a chance to come across who they are for themselves. I would also make sure the parent that no bullying will be allow in the class rooms.

ANNIE S LI

11/14/2018 10:10:42 am

Re-assure the parents that the school is a safe environment for their child to learn,discover, grow, and play.

Tiffany M.

11/14/2018 12:06:46 pm

I agree that re-assuring the parents that school is safe is the most important thing to add to any conversation where parents are concerned.

Tiffany M

11/14/2018 12:05:19 pm

The family was very upset when they came to pick up their son and found him dressed as a princess. They say they’re worried about him being teased and/or not understanding appropriate “male” behavior.

I would listen to their concerns and make sure to validate their feelings. Then I would reassure them that all the students in the class are taught to be understanding and kind, that their child is safe at school. Then I would go on to explain that it's typical that children want to dress up and use their imagination at this age. The child is exploring their identity and that our school is very supportive of all the students. I would make sure to take the time to answer any additional questions they may have.

Amy Sommerlatte

11/14/2018 12:36:21 pm

I would let them know that I understand their concerns. Then I would explain that here at school we love playing dress up and make believe and that their child was just having a good time. We try to include everyone in activities so If Sally wants to be a mechanic and Bobby wants to be a princess we accept that they are just trying new things.

Ratnamala Chakravorty

11/15/2018 12:15:19 pm

The first thing is to have an open mind as a teacher. Not to assume what they might say and get ready with a response. It is important for families or parents to be heard and to be assured that the teacher understands their concern. Families may have different values, culture or social norms. So it is important to listen to what they have to say. If they are concerned about the fact their 'boy' is dressed up like a girl and they are not happy about it because a boy should always dress up like a boy. We have to let them know first that we do understand their concern and then discuss that as a child grows up he sees the environment around himself. When he is interested in something he will try to imitate that and might take up a different gender role. It is a form of exploring things that he is surrounded with or it might be just a new interesting thing that he wanted to put on. Being so young he is not at stage to worry about gender norms.
Secondly, if the parents are worried about something else. That is what if the child is teased by his friends at school or laughed at. We have to give them assurance that we do not encourage any kind of bully behavior in the school and that we as teachers are always looking out for unnatural or non inclusive behavior where the child feels left out, sad or being not included.

sateva henderson

11/15/2018 02:45:44 pm

I would let them know that their child is at the age where they are using their imagination, and this facility does not accept bullying behavior. then I would make sure to answer any question they have

heidi kearns

11/15/2018 04:23:14 pm

hopefully that was the clothes for the boy. parents are required to have spare clothing.

Aubri Weber

11/16/2018 09:23:55 am

I would let the parents know that their son is at the age where dress up is fun and he is only using his imagination.

Hannah Tucker

11/16/2018 03:14:45 pm

Initially I would thank the parents for taking an interest in their child's education and assure them that we take their children's welfare and well being. I would then explain how children learn by making connections, and that dressing up and recreating life scenarios only means their child is developing at the appropriate rate. Furthermore I would explain that we encourage children to explore all sorts of toys and activities, stress that an active mind is something to be embraced. Keeping open communication and support is crucial when addressing parental concerns.

Michelle Nieves

11/16/2018 07:36:20 pm

I would work with the parent. I would let them know that we have talked about imaginary play and dressing up, and that it does not define the child, yet encourages playing with all children. While respecting the parents boundaries and finding out what they are ok with and what they do not want.

Samantha G

11/17/2018 07:48:32 pm

Have a conversation outside the classroom without the child. Explain that this is part of learning roles. Assure them that the well being and care for the child comes first for all involved. Offer to set up a learning plan with the parents for both in the classroom and at home for topics to help the child learn more about himself that is non bias material.

Emily Repp

11/17/2018 09:01:04 pm

I would tell the parents that we have a no bullying policy and if we see it happening then we will talk with the child who is doing it. I would also say that the child is just using his imagination and is still learning the rolls of the different genders.

jennifer

11/17/2018 10:46:09 pm

I would restate the parent's concern to make sure I was addressing the bullying issue or the gender role issue, or both. I would address the issues separately, assuring that this environment was safe for their child to play with all classroom toys and materials free from bullying. I would then explain the importance of pretend play and creativity without the fear of gender roles. Because this child may be more emotionally impacted at home by the father than benefited by being a princess at school, exploring what is available for the children to play with may be a conversation to have in a staff meeting.

Amber

11/17/2018 11:17:33 pm

I would communicate it is very normal to play dress up but would also be respectful of the parents concerns and listen to them.

Daniele Pine

11/18/2018 01:23:40 pm

I would explain to families that child is learning about diversity and let them know of the positive learning that he is engaging in.

Emily Snead-Hearing

11/18/2018 02:11:53 pm

Firstly, I would listen to the parents concerns and have them elaborate a little on why they have this concern, so I can understand it better. Then, having reassured them that I have heard their concerns, I would tell them that children are encouraged to use their imagination when doing dramatic play. I would explain that their son has shown to have a lot of creativity and we want to allow them to express that creativity without a lot of direction from the adults. I would also reassure them if we notice any teasing or bullying going on, we don't tolerate it and encourage the children to use nice and friendly words.

sateva henderson

11/19/2018 04:29:43 pm

If a parent got upset about their child playing dress up I would inform them that its normal at their age to be using their imagination and playing dress up. Then also inform them that we have a no bullying policy in place to protect kids from being made fun of by other kids for their actions. Then listen to their concerns and answer any questions they may have about bullying.

kendra tomlin

11/20/2018 03:38:19 pm

I would first listen to the parent's concerns and then assure them that their child is in a safe space for exploring and learning. That he is not being bullied or teased. I would explain to them that it is a normal developmental way to play at that age and does not necessarily mean anything about gender. I would then ask if they had any questions.

Abbey

11/20/2018 06:02:29 pm

First listen to the parents to be sure they feel heard and that their voice matters. Then remind them that there is zero tolerance for bullying and that teachers watch interactions very closely, helping children to open a dialogue and problem solve together when necessary. Reassure parents that this program is a safe environment to learn, explore, discover, and try new things, and that teaching students acceptance and tolerance is regarded very highly.

Deja

11/21/2018 12:01:58 pm

I would address the parents concerns.I would address the parents concerns. Undress there is zero tolerance for Hurting another child.

Chelsea

11/21/2018 01:04:20 pm

Ensure the parents that teasing of any sort is discouraged and not tolerated. Encourage the parents to embrace and invest in the development of the child’s imagination and understanding of play/reality.

Jennifer Sharp

11/21/2018 05:18:35 pm

I would listen to the concerns of the parents. I would assure them that all the children dress up as different characters and that trying out different roles is completely normal. I would also assure them that the staff is very conscientious about ensuring that children are respectful to each other and that name calling or bulllying was not tolerated.

Deanna

11/23/2018 10:18:22 am

I woould set up a meeting with his parents to where i could give my full attention to listen to their issues and concerns. I would then explain that he is using his imagination and is still learning what makes everyone different also that kids bullying and making fun of the other kids is not tolerated and when it does hapenn those who are bullyimg and making fun get talked to as well as their parents are informed

Michelle

11/24/2018 02:31:02 pm

First I would listen and ask questions if necessary to make sure I understood the parent's concerns. I would reassure them that their child would not be teased for this and tell them how we talk to the children about only using kind words. I would reassure them that all sorts of imaginative play is normal, and that they are using the dress up in much the same way as their peers, male and female. If the parents still seemed uncomfortable I would invite them to chat as well with another staff member who could provide them more information about imaginative play and child development.

rosanne lee

11/24/2018 09:41:09 pm

I would be a non-anxious presence and calmly listen and address the parents concern. I would try to understand the parents fears/concerns and to the best of my ability, reassure them that their son is using his imagination. I would make sure that he would not be teased or bullied!

Alysha Phelps

11/25/2018 01:30:25 pm

We could start with discussing where the teasing concerns are coming from. We can also discuss studies that show children that are more open to gender expression in young ages are more confident in their bodies as they age as well as dress up being an important developmental stage for younger children even if it has little to nothing to do with their actual view of their own gender. We would talk respectfully of the parents potential religious and past experiences so not to outright tell them they are wrong with out harming the self image of the young boy.

Andrea Kornfeind

11/25/2018 09:16:26 pm

I would listen to their concerns and then explain typical child development and learning through play. I will tell them that their son's learning of "male" behavior often happens at home and within society, and that through play is how their son is making sense of the roles he sees around him. I would also let them know that my classroom of inclusiveness and kindness and that bullying will not happen while he is at school.

Joslyn deRousse

11/26/2018 01:24:48 am

Listen to parents concern openly and then discussion with them about the normal behavior of the child to express creative imagination and learning who they are.

Angelia Way

11/26/2018 12:00:27 pm

I would talk to the about their concerns with dressing up and try and help them understand that dressing up at a young age is very normal. Understanding the parents and trying to make them feel heard and then do the best the for family as a whole.

Sami

11/26/2018 07:24:09 pm

I would exp!aim that he is p!aging dress up with the other kids and explain what they are playing and then listen to their concerns and let them talk with their child.

nicole

11/27/2018 09:18:28 pm

I would explain that the little boy has seen the other children dressing up that it is likely a faze and he will probably grow out of it we don't tolerate bullying

Cassandra Bertsch link

11/27/2018 10:25:31 pm

I would listen to their concerns. Reassure them that Imagination and creative play is a big part of learning. That this is normal behavior.

Anna

11/28/2018 08:48:59 pm

The family was very upset when they came to pick up their son and found him dressed as a princess. They say they’re worried about him being teased and/or not understanding appropriate “male” behavior.

After listening to the family's concerns I would first validate their feelings, letting them know I understand where they are coming from. I would give examples other kinds of play their child was engaging in to help put the instant they witnessed in context, and assure them that their child was having positive social interactions with his peers. I would also let them know that experimenting with gender norms is normal and developmentally appropriate for preschool aged children. I would encourage them to come to our teachers with further concerns and clarify that bullying of any kind will not be tolerated in the classroom.

Jessie pittman

11/29/2018 12:30:51 pm

I would validate the parents feelings and their concern. Next, I would reassure them that bullying and teasing are absolutely not tolerated in my classroom as well as our center. I do try to encourage children to have an imagination and have freedom of expression however they see fit. I would also tell them that I do have other boys in my class who enjoy dressing up as well and they all don’t go for the firefighter they at this age see it as shiny glittery or just something different because they don’t typically get to wear these things on a regular basis so they are just exploring it and it is in a healthy and positive way.

Korry Rushton

11/29/2018 02:15:35 pm

Inform the parent that biting is natural at this age and that we will work on fixing the issue together.

Sarah Swart

12/1/2018 12:26:13 pm

The most important thing to remember is to listen to the family's concerns whether or not you, as a professional, agree with the parent's views that may be the conflicting problem or not. As the caregiver to thier child, you have the responsibility to make that parent feel like his or her child is safe in your care and that you truly care about thier beliefs and values in raising them. After the parent's concerns have been acknowledged, I would explain that the school is a bully free zone of free expression as the world of creativity in a child's mind can vary and may not be specified to what our interpretation of the current scenario may be. In our mind we may see a princess, in the child's mind they may be a superhero. As the classroom is free of judgement and bias, we as teachers allow the freedom of expression in all forms so that the child can experience unbound creativity, thus allowing the mind to grow and learn as unbridled as possible. Fear is never a factor in our facility's free play, but love and laughter is.

Serena Stanton-Jackson

12/2/2018 01:46:02 pm

I would explain to the parent that it was during free play while the child is exploring both real and make-believe. He could be just doing it because he sees other children participating. I would let them know that we also have no "male" or "female" behavior because we are non-biased and they are sending their child to this center and it was explained how the center operates during their orientation.

angela

12/2/2018 07:16:19 pm

I would listen to the parents concerns and then I would assure them that teasing/bullying is not tolerated. I would tell them that it is perfectly normal for boys to play dress up and sometimes choose glittery/frilly outfits.

Hannah MacDonald

12/2/2018 07:45:41 pm

I would listen to the families concerns and their perspective. I would assure them that it is age appropriate to play dress up and try on all the different clothes. I would let them know that we would always try to have a bully free classroom. I would respect their wishes to not have their child dress up in girls costumes and try to encourage him to wear other costumes.

Gaby Bertran

12/3/2018 10:17:26 am

First I would listen to what the parent is concerned about. I would then let the parent know that the classroom is a safe place for their child to explore gender roles and it is normal behavior for children this age to try on different clothing items while playing dress up. I would also let the parent know that I will try and encourage their child to dress up in other costumes.

Jennifer Hanson

12/11/2018 02:26:59 pm

I would agree that it is important for the child to be able to explore and it's normal for them to want to explore different things. I would also agree that I would encourage the child to dress up in other costumes not just dresses and such. It's fun and important fo them to discover and explore all sorts of different things to find out where they are most interested in.

Mary Abbey

12/4/2018 11:29:43 am

Firstly, I would listen to the parents perspective and explain to them that they're initial feelings are valid. I would reassure them that it is normal behavior and it is nothing to be concerned about, and that the classroom is a safe place for everyone to express themselves and they don't have to worry about their child being hurt.

Sophia

12/7/2018 06:31:17 am

Letting them know we respect their wishes and will keep the child out of dresses, and making sure they know their is zero tolerance for bullying and it is a safe space.

Caitlin Malcom

12/8/2018 11:43:45 am

I would set up a meeting with the parents and explain to them that just because their child may like to wear a princess dress, does not mean anything about them as a person. Many of the other children do not care if he does wear a dress and if we see any bullying at the center it will be our first priority to stop the problem.

Jessica Rodriguez-Diaz

12/9/2018 07:51:15 pm

In this scenario, I would listen to the parents' concerns. I would then explain to the parents the child is at a stage where dressing up is form of play and kids experiment with different forms of playing. I would also remind them bullying is never tolerated at our center. I would let them know if they have anymore concerns or questions I am always open to listening and communicating. If they need additional resources, I am happy to help them find those and further help them understand.

sarah fox

12/10/2018 07:20:19 pm

It would be important to listen empathetically to the parents. Reassure them that "bullying" is not permitted, that everyone is welcome to play and explore in safety. I've had several boys choose to wear skirts to class and we acknowledge that boys and girls can wear skirts or pants. In some cultures men wear kilts which are similar to skirts. Young children are creatures of imitation and may be imitating how they see their mom or sisters dress.

Sarah

12/10/2018 07:58:10 pm

I would listen to all the parents concerns and make sure that they know I understand what they are saying. I would then inform them that our center does not tolerate bullying and teasing whatsoever but we do love creativity and imaginations. I would also let them know that it is normal for a child this age to want to dress up as the opposite gender because they are starting to learn about how each person is different.

Kayla

12/12/2018 06:13:10 pm

I would let the parent express their concern and listen to each concern they have, making sure not to interrupt and let them completely express their concerns fully. After the parent has expressed themselves I would explain that our dramatic play area is for children to express their imaginations, role play and to help with gender identity. I would express that the child is using the items to role play and understand how each person in unique .

Desiree M Sample

12/14/2018 01:30:18 pm

I would absolutely listen to the parent's concerns. Then I would proceed to tell the parent that we encourage the children's creativity and imagination and that bullying is not allowed in our center. Children should be able to learn and express themselves freely and safely.

Katie Fisher

12/15/2018 07:23:00 pm

Lily is 20 months old. This is the second time she has bitten another child today. Lily’s mom is very upset and may pull her out.

I would encourage the family to stay in the program. I would reassure her that this is a developmentally appropriate behavior. Often Infants and toddlers will bite when feeling frusturated. When they do not have the ability to find the words to voice their frustration they will often act out by biting in order to stop the behavior. It is important to let the children understand that you see they are feeling frustrated. To breathe and allow them to calm down. To let them know when it is an acceptable time to bite and when it is not. This can take form of a discussion or game. We can bite into apples, or carrots. We can use our teeth for munching and chewing. We do not bite people when we are feeling frustrated. Allow the mother to treat this scenario as a learning opportunity for not only her own child but for the other children in the classroom as well. It is not necessary to pull the child out of the program for one bad behavior. This does not make the child bad, it is just a developmentally appropriate behavior she is exhibiting out of frustration and stress. The mother can help her child by encouraging her to identify that feeling, and teach proper breathing, coping mechanisms, and vocabulary for expressing these feelings.

kyla barkley

12/16/2018 11:09:05 am

It is important the children learn gender roles. I would let the parents know that it is important and will help them as they grow.

Jada Latimer

12/16/2018 11:37:42 am

I would listen to the parents concern and try to reassure them that it is perfectly normal and healthy for children to take on other roles through dramatic play. It not only helps them understand others but it also helps them understand themselves.

meredith davey

12/16/2018 04:04:13 pm

I would tell the father that A child roleplaying allows them to experiment with understanding other perspectives, and it builds empathy. I would then go and say that there is no proper gender behavior, that it is perfectly normal for children to roleplay as another gender. A boy child is no worse for liking the way a skirt looks on him and we can accept his exploration and encourage him.

Hayley Aman

12/16/2018 08:45:09 pm

I would listen to all their concerns and say that they are exploring different genders and their roles. Assure them that it is completely normal

Caitlyn Strid

12/21/2018 02:49:47 pm

First you want to make sure the parents feel heard and understood. After that, I would explain that imaginary games are key to a child’s development, exploring both gender rules with help his understanding of both genders and will strengthen him down the road. I’d also inform them that the center is a bully free zone and it is perfectly okay for him to be dressed up.

Kayla

12/21/2018 08:01:16 pm

First i would ask the parents as to why they are concerned about their son dressing up as a princess. Based off of their answer i would try to explain that this is where children should feel free to express themselves but if their child doesn't want their son to dress up as a princess, we will make sure their son does not. If their son is upset over this, we will communicate that they need to talk to their parents about it and we will tell the parents that they were wanting to dress as a princess

Lusine, Simonyan

12/21/2018 09:58:20 pm

I would tell them that I understand their problems, and with love I explained that children here like to play games and dress, and that their child just has a good time.

Ye Tao

12/23/2018 04:05:29 pm

I will listen to parents' concern and let them know that by age four, most children have a stable sense of their gender identity. During this same time of life, children learn gender role behavior—that is, doing "things that boys do" or "things that girls do." However, cross-gender preferences and play are a normal part of gender development and exploration regardless of their future gender identity. So it is very common situation that is nothing to worry about.

Madison Hummel

12/26/2018 11:20:18 pm

I would be sure to hear the parent out and not jump in to explain right away. I would then let the parents know that dressing up and imagination is encouraged with the children and that we do everything we can to keep bullying out of the center.

Taquoia Bentley

12/27/2018 07:07:35 am

I would reassure that parents that this is totally normal and children a simply playing and using their imagination that how they learn. I would also let them know that I understand their concerns and let them know there is noting to worry about children don't really know about bullying at this age they are just being free and playing.

Arlonda Harris

12/27/2018 07:20:19 am

I would talk to the parents and address their concerns that they have about this situation. I would let them know that it is normal for children this age to dress up as princesses. Children are simply being free and self exploring that they should have a huge concern.

Shelbie Arteaga

12/27/2018 09:49:32 pm

I would listen to the parents concerns and try to empathize with them. I would explain the situation and that we teach diversity as well as basic life skills of getting dressed. I would explain that this was not gender bias and we were not trying to influence their child in any other way than using their imagination. I would be thoughtful of my choice of words making sure that what I said still helped the parents feel understood and heard. I would do my best to acknowledge the way they felt and would find a way to help this situation in the future if it were to come up again.

Rachel Riana Ringoringo

12/29/2018 07:20:18 am

As the parent is upset, using positive communication techniques, I would first listen to all the concerns the parents may have about the situation. However, I would also be sure to discuss with the parents the results of dressing up may have, such as going through the motions to find out more about their own identity. It is important to listen first before immediately gushing out information to the parents.

Reese

12/29/2018 01:54:43 pm

In this situation I would pull parents aside, so as to not embarrass the child. I would simply listen to their perspective and understand where they are coming from and assure them that I can sympathize. Assure them that they are not the only parents to have this concern. I would then begin to explain that kids are encouraged to play however they imagine, not persuaded by any cultural, religious or gender bias. Simply explain how I perceive the situation, not in a defensive or patronizing tone, but tactfully with the care of the family in mind.

Daniela Rodriguez

12/29/2018 03:28:03 pm

The way that I would handle this situation is to first hear what concerns, or issues the parents have with the situation. I would then explain to them that the boy is simply just playing with costumes and we do not tolerate any kind of bullying or teasing that he can be subjected to. I would try to reassure the parents that the kid is just playing and they are allowed to play with whatever they want since they are not limited to only dressing in "gender appropriate" costumes, they are encouraged to use their imagination.

karissa johnson

12/29/2018 04:29:42 pm

The family was very upset when they came to pick up their son and found him dressed as a princess. They say they’re worried about him being teased and/or not understanding appropriate “male” behavior.
Scenario 2: I would ask the parents why they are upset and what i could do if they think it was an issue. Then I would explain to the parents that the child is simply playing dress up. There are a abundance of dress up clothes for the child to play with. I would tell them that we encourage the children to use their imagination and that we have no tolerance for bullying/teasing

Haily Campbell

12/29/2018 04:43:14 pm

I would listen to the parents and let them know that I understand their concerns and then explain that the center is a safe place for children to pretend and express imagination in anyway, no teasing or bullying would be tolerated within the child center as well.

Shannon Menjivar-Bates

12/30/2018 01:33:34 am

Id tell them that I understand their concerns and comfort them on not tot worry because all the kids are learning their gender identity and the facility is safe where no one is bullied, because it is not tolerated.

janae leptich

12/30/2018 12:49:34 pm

I would listen to the families concerns and then i would let the parent know that it is completely normal for children to want to play dress up whether male or female, i would also let them know that as children they are learning gender identity and let them know that the center is a safe place for children to express themselves and bullying is not tolerated

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