Scenario 2

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6/1/2016

Scenario 2 :
The family was very upset when they came to pick up their son and found him dressed as a princess. They say they’re worried about him being teased and/or not understanding appropriate “male” behavior.

Using positive communication techniques, how would you handle this scenario?

34 Comments

Natalie Stevens

5/6/2018 02:32:56 pm

I would start the conversation by listening to Lily’s Mother’s concerns and not get defensive about her desire to remove her child from the class. It could be a “knee jerk” response to the situation. Then I would positively comment on all the good qualities and interactions involving Lily and explain how biting is an age appropriate behavior that some children use to act out their frustrations or needs, similarly to tantrums. I would invite her Mother to consider working together with the staff to help Lily through this stage.

Drew Pace

5/6/2018 07:12:15 pm

Well, first off, let me say that we do not tolerate teasing, bulling or other kinds of negative behavior in our classroom. Secondly, my lesson plan involves a very open approach to dramatic play. One in which students don't have to conform to any social norms, thus developing a more stable sense of pride and individuality. I have seen these kids be some great things, and I assure you your son has and will assume more masculine roles in addition to but not absent of his current feminine choices.

shacora dansby

5/7/2018 10:23:56 pm

First I would actively listen to their concerns then I would explain to the parent's that children use their imagination as a part of learning and that dramatic play is often where you see this imagination. I would share with parent's that I understand their concerns and reassure them that the school has a no bully policy and ask if there is anything else I could do.

Kaitlyn M Schrank

5/8/2018 05:46:09 pm

I would ask the parents what about the dress was upsetting to them and discuss what the intention of free play and dress up is in the class room. Discuss that boys and girls can pretend to be who ever they want for the sake of pretend. Role playing for pretend can entice creativity that could some day grown into becoming an author, actor, singer, artist, and many more great things. All of the children play dress up in our class room and it gives them the ability to be imaginative with there minds without judgment from anyone. Its a safe play area were the girls can pretend to be Spider man and the girls can be Elsa with freezing powers if they want.

Allyce

5/9/2018 09:29:53 am

This is a tricky conversation for me! I would reassure the parent that all boys and girls at the school play dress-up in both gender's clothes and we do not tolerate bullying. We read books at circle that encourage kids to wear what they want and try to break down stereotypes. We allow the children to vote on what dress up they'd like, so I would remind the parent that this particular dress up was their choice. If the parent is still having concerns, I would speak to a school director about how to best approach the situation.

Jamie

5/9/2018 02:17:37 pm

It is important to remind parents that dress-up is an important part of children's development, and that the child will not be teased at our school, as teasing and/or bullying is taken very seriously and not tolerated.

Chris McClain

5/9/2018 04:07:09 pm

I would listen to their concerns and come to an agreement on how we can prevent that from happening all while making sure the kid is having fun.

Alexis

5/10/2018 01:44:55 pm

I would listen to the parents concerns and make sure that it is understood that we would not allow the child to be bullied. I also would emphasize that dressing up is just a form of dramatic play. That it has nothing to do with gender but being able to play and have imagination is so wonderful.

Helen Wong

5/10/2018 05:41:34 pm

I would listen to the parent's concerns and reaffirm that they have been heard and listened to. I would assure them that it is developmentally normal to engage in dramatic play in variety of outfits for children at this age and that it can also benefit the student that it does stimulate imagination and creativity. I would let them know that we encourage an inclusive environment where children develop their skills, strengths and talents in a variety of ways and do not define play according to gender. I would reassure them that our center does not condone teasing and bullying in any form.

Terri Hollis

5/11/2018 03:44:41 am

The best way to ensure a parent about why his or her child is dressed in different clothes is to explain what exercises the class was participating in at that moment.

Sandy C

5/12/2018 10:03:46 am

I think in a situation like this it is very important to have good communication with the parents. It is important that that the parents feel heard and you validate their concerns regarding their son. I would reassure them that their son is exploring through dramatic play and that the school will not and has never tolerated teasing or bullying. I would ask the parents to keep the lines of communication open with me.

James Drake

5/12/2018 04:39:59 pm

I would listen to their concerns about the bullying and teasing and reassure them that there is a no bullying/teasing policy as well as that it is normal for their kid to dress up in a menagerie of costumes.

Dakota McKee

5/13/2018 02:33:19 pm

Listen to the parent and hear all of her concerns regarding the incident. Address each concern individually and gain her feedback. Talk to her about children developmentally at that age and see what her ideal solution for the situation is. Work with her to come up with a plan to keep Lily safe and happy while also make sure the other child is taken care for as well.

Jaime Bobbitt

5/14/2018 12:50:03 pm

Listening before responding is key, discovering the real concern behind the said concern by letting them expound on their thoughts before interjecting. Creating a place for the parent to make suggestions alongside you to bring resolve to their concerns. Taking time to explain the dynamics of the situation and the value in learning through play.

jacob van buskirk

5/15/2018 09:38:40 am

I carefully listen to the parents concerns and then explain to them that it is a very common thing that children do. I then would explain that bulling or making fun of another child is not tolerated at our establishment.

alyssa

5/15/2018 03:44:12 pm

I would lesson to the parents concern, then we could have a conversation where the child could not hear us. then talk about if this was a one time event or if the child always picked the same dress up outfit. and ensure the parent the bulling and name calling would not be allowed in class.

Emily

5/15/2018 07:38:32 pm

I'd listen to what the parents have to say, and then I'd explain that in growing up gender roles are being figured out, that there would be no bullying because its perfectly normal! Then allow the parents to make suggestions where we can figure out a idea where both parties are satisfied.

Lauren Greenfield

5/16/2018 11:02:46 pm

The family was very upset when they came to pick up their son and found him dressed as a princess. They say they’re worried about him being teased and/or not understanding appropriate “male” behavior.

I would begin by really listening to the parents and their concerns. I would let them know that their concerns are heard and valued. I would gently explain that their child is using the dramatic play area to foster his sense of imagination. Working with the parent is key to resolving this issue, letting them know that their ideas and emotions are valued is most important.

Annie

5/17/2018 09:06:20 am

I would listen to the parents' concerns and assure them that bullying is not allowed at our site. I would explain to them that we teach kids to be accepting and open to others and that we do our best to create a strong sense of community. I would suggest that their child is using their imagination and having fun with dress up. I would encourage the parent to keep an open line of communication with me moving forward.

Elizabeth Ranquist

5/17/2018 12:09:38 pm

I would let the parent know I understand there concern. Explain how dramatic play is a form of free play. Explained that as a class we talk about being kind and how bulling is not okay. Encourage the family to talk with the child about his choice to dress up as a princess.

Jenna Rees

5/17/2018 06:39:25 pm

I would assure the parent that the center has a strict "no bullying" policy and that dramatic play is closely supervised by teachers throughout the day. Next, I would inform them that there is a wide variety of clothing to choose from that allows each child to use their imagination. Dramatic play is an essential tool for children to develop emotionally and socially, no matter what outfit they choose to wear.

Tanner

5/17/2018 09:18:41 pm

I would assure the parents that bullying and teasing are not allowed in this center or ever and that kids this age love to express themselves. Their child is just playing around and we will make sure that no bullying or teasing is happening.

Jada

5/17/2018 09:20:40 pm

I would listen and agree with the parent that teasing/bullying is not tolerated. Also I would assure the parent that the children are just doing dramatic play, and they mimic different ways of life.

Travia

5/21/2018 07:20:13 pm

I would do the same thing parents are always worried about their children and any bullying would never be okay.

Heidi

5/18/2018 05:03:08 pm

I would hear out the families concerns on the child dressing up. I would explain that dramatic play helps their child grow and develop. I would explain that their child probably choose to dress as a princess and he was playing the part in is favorite book. This would give him a deeper understanding of the narrative structure as well and understanding the characters.

Caleb Ryden

5/19/2018 09:19:41 pm

I would listen to the parents concern. Then I would explain that dressing up and exploring themselves is natural and important for a child's healthy development. I would then answer any questions the family might have.

Kyle Van Pelt

5/20/2018 01:59:11 pm

First, I would listen to the families perspective and concerns on the situation. Secondly, I would respectfully let the family know that dressing up in a variety of dress up clothes in dramatic play is a normal and natural way to allow the child to use their imagination. Third, I would reassure to the family that our center does not tolerate teasing or bullying on our policy. Lastly, I would allow the family to address any further questions that I can help or assist regarding their concerns with their child dressing up in dramatic play dress up clothes.

Caitlin Hall

5/20/2018 02:19:18 pm

I would listen to their concerns and try to talk with them about a plan we can make to help them, help their children

Angelina Farias

5/20/2018 08:53:17 pm

I would listen to their concerns and validate their feelings and also the child's, and I would explain to them that we are teaching the children non gender roles to provide a healthy learning environment. Assure them that teasing/ bullying is not tolerated and strictly against policy procedures.

Shraddha Poudel

5/21/2018 12:18:12 am

I would hear about parents concern very carefully and also would let them know that imaginary and drama role play are a part of this age group development also bullying at classroom or around school premises wouldn't be tolerated.

Laura

5/21/2018 01:08:23 pm

I would hear his mother out, then assure her that we do not tolerate bullying or teasing of any kind. I would also let her know that kids need to be able to try all different types of things. There are plenty of boys that try on dresses, and vice versa. It is nothing to be worried about.

travia

5/21/2018 07:18:22 pm

I would first listen to their concerns, but I would assure them that it is age appropriate behavior and they shouldn't worry about bullying because we have a zero tolorance policy for bullying. I would tell them that their son wanted to dress up as a princess and that its apart of his imagination

Irina Liksunova

5/21/2018 07:41:02 pm

Friendly greeting mom. Tell her what happened was good and interesting with Lilly. Then I'll tell you that we just need to teach Lilly not to bite. We will help to do this.

Essence Dixon

5/21/2018 08:23:29 pm

i would let the parents know here we do not judge others by any circumstance. Your child felt comfortable wearing that outfit so here we want our students to feel comfortable so we allowed your child to wear what made him comfortable. Clothes does not define how a man acts nor thinks, if he wore wearing a football uniform that would not make him tough and wearing a dress does not make him soft. His personality is all that matters.

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