Discussion: Age-Appropriate Toddler﻿ Scenario * Module 2 Page 24 (12/13)

Discussion: Age-Appropriate Toddler Scenario * Module 2 Page 24 (12/13)

6/4/2016

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Toddler Scenario
You have been working with toddlers at the Stay-and-Play Child Care Center for over a year and love their energy and curiosity! A new teacher assistant is subbing with you and tells two toddlers struggling over a toy phone to “share nicely” which just escalates the fighting. She finally removes the toy and tells them no one can have it if they don’t share. The toddlers are now both crying and whining for the phone and the rest of the class is starting to as well. The sub tells you that she is used to kindergartners and doesn’t know what to do with toddlers.

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Jessica

11/4/2018 02:44:40 pm

Yes I think that this behavior is normal I feel like kids are still learning to share there toys and stuff. By letting them know that this is normal at this age group and that being in the toddler room they will learn to share and not act that way.

Julissa

12/28/2018 01:29:28 pm

Agree. Every child at this age doesn't like to share, they always saying "it's mine". Helping them learn and understand the meaning of sharing helps them so much later in life. I know it's going to be hard because they are just kids because you need to at least try. Even having more then one phone toy is good because they learn to play together as friends

Mollie Hinshaw-Rasmussen

11/4/2018 04:46:35 pm

I think the behavior and expectation are both age appropriate. Toddlers are still learning the concept of sharing and it is our responsibility to teach them how to share with their friends. Instead of taking away the toy at first I would try to see if I could get the children to play together with the toy. I would simply explain that to any co-worker and parent who witnessed and had questions about the situation. To prevent the situation I would try not to put on single toy phone into the classroom, when there are multiple toy phones children are willing to play and share with others.

Virginia Paddock

11/4/2018 10:02:49 pm

I agree there shouldn't be just one phone toy in the classroom.

Darci

11/4/2018 08:49:54 pm

Sharing is an emerging skill for toddlers, so the fact that two of them cannot do it is not surprising. Redirection is probably the best option at this point, but realistically the toddler room needs multiples of various toys because toddlers just aren't fully capable of sharing toys.

Virginia Paddock

11/4/2018 10:00:48 pm

Do you think this behavior or expectation is age-appropriate? Yes
2.If so, how could you explain this to the parents/co-workers? I can explain that at toddler age its the "Mine" stage.
3.Is there anything you can do to prevent this situation from happening again? Yes, by talking to the children about who had the toy first can play with it or find another toy like it.

Susan Stehr

11/5/2018 10:48:02 am

The behavior for this age group is appropriate and common for this age group. I would explain to my co-worker that this age is still learning and have not even began to master their executive function so its up to us to show them and give them examples of sharing using words as well as actions. The toy should not be taken away unless it is somehow harmful for the children. These situations will happen continuously at this age making them learning experiences so when they are at an age where their executive function will begin they will have examples and dialogue to know what to do.

mariyana marble

11/5/2018 10:26:44 pm

The behavior is age appropriate for this age. Fighting is inevitable. The sub could've used another approach though. The sub clearly is used to work with older children however toddlers are still exploring the meaning of words and it was unreasonable to lead with words. Leading with actions followed by words that match your action is way more successful. Stopping the fighting can be worked on in the moment and its not an excuse for their behavior because they are of their age but its normal to see this kind of behavior from toddlers.

Ashley Hanson

11/6/2018 12:55:18 pm

this is a great learn as you go experience. this behavior is totally normal! they are learning together how to play with others and blend personalities. just explaining that the the sub she would know next time what to do!

amanda

11/6/2018 07:06:29 pm

I believe the behavior from the toddlers is age appropriate and expected i would have let the child who had it first play with it and redirect the other toddler to another toy or activity

Brandi Simmons

11/7/2018 10:28:34 pm

I believe the children's behavior is appropriate for the age group. I would probably suggest asking them to help the other find a fun toy to play with so they can play together. In order to avoid this situation, I would definitely explain to the teacher the current cognitive level of toddlers, in terms of learning to share and understanding they don't quite grasp "sharing" or knowing what is "right or wrong" yet. Try using more positive reinforcements, like setting a timer for one to play for a few minutes, then the other, going back and forth that way they see that they can have it back after "sharing".

amber

11/8/2018 01:57:09 pm

Yes this is age-appropriate. toddlers dont understand the term share.
I would explain to the co worker that at this age you have to teach the children how to share by using actions. the toddlers dont understand when you tell them to share. you have to get to their level and get them to play together.
To prevent this event from happening again you can make sure to have more than 1 of each toy.

Padmaja Kondeti

11/8/2018 03:41:00 pm

This is very common at this age that kids don't know sharing and they fight,at that time we need to ask kids that who took first will get turn first and then after some time you need to share with your friend. In this way we can teach kids how to share not to yell.we need to tell the parents about the situation so that if it happens at home they can teach which helps child to share and the coworker has to work on that if she didn't worked with toddlers.

cinthya viguerias

11/8/2018 05:02:51 pm

1. yes this behavior is age appropriate, during this age children are developing their social skills which means they are just learning how to share.
2. I would explain to parents that developing social skills takes some time, but with all these experiences it will only get better. And fighting between children Is completely normal inevitable
3. what I have done when they fight over a toy is to take it away for at least five minutes and introduce them to new toys, put the toys back when the children are too busy or distracted with something else

Gretchen

11/11/2018 01:31:47 am

At this age children learn by being shown appropriate behavior so I definitely feel that this behavior is age appropriate. The children are still learning social skills. In this situation, I would talk to the sub about this age group and let her know things that have worked for me with this age group in the past. I also would have gone over to the toddlers and told the toddler who was trying to take the toy that the other kiddo was playing with the toy first and redirect him to another toy to play with. I would also let the toddler know that when the kiddo was done playing with the toy that he could have a turn. At this age I don't think there is a way to prevent this from ever happening again. I thinks it's just repetitive actions by the teacher that will finally get through to the toddler age what is appropriate and what's not.

Jennifer Martinez

11/11/2018 07:36:17 pm

Toddlers have plenty of milestones to accomplish at this time. May it be to gain new words, walk, notice when a caregiver leaves, copy others actions, including sharing with their peers. At this age it is extremely common for children to not understand what sharing is and what it means. To an unexperienced co-worker, I would be to explain that younger children have yet to learn how to share, and by taking away a toy it is not going to help the children understand how to share. Demonstrating them how to do so will help children share. To prevent fights from not sharing, it is critical to constantly showing the children how to share, providing appropriate amount of the same to the children, and guiding them to different toys.

Yesenia Perez

11/11/2018 11:18:09 pm

It is age appropriate since toddlers are learning new experiences and are not very good at sharing. I would explain to my coworkers that the kids are just exploring and do not like to be interrupted. To keep it from happening again I would make sure there was enough toys for everyone to share

Haley Welch

11/12/2018 08:27:30 pm

Toddlers don't usually have a good concept of sharing so this behavior is certainly age-appropriate. To explain how to handle the situation to my co-worker I would tell her to explain to the kids what is the right and wrong choice in the situation because taking the toy away only teaches them what not to do. If you keep explaining right and wrong choices, the kids while learn to share over time.

Kathleen Adams

11/12/2018 09:58:45 pm

1) yes It is totally age appropriate.
2) I would tell parents and coworkers that this is very typical. Kids don't like to share or they don't understand. But we can work on it here as well as home and they will get better and learn.
3) Make sure you have multiplies of toys like 6 or 7. But maybe the approach by the teacher could have handle it differently. Maybe could have started singing to change the mood or handing the other child a different toy and maybe have them switch after awhile.

Nichole Payne

11/13/2018 07:53:29 pm

Do you think this behavior or expectation is age-appropriate? Yes
2.If so, how could you explain this to the parents/co-workers? I can explain that at toddler age its the "Mine" stage and learning to share with friends is a normal part of development.
3.Is there anything you can do to prevent this situation from happening again? Yes, encouraging sharing and showing them what sharing looks like. sometimes having an adult there to interact with the children and be the coordinator of the toy teaches children how to share. Also by having multiple phones in the room rather than just one would help the situation. this would allow for more than one child to play together and still have their own toy.

Amy Sommerlatte

11/14/2018 02:12:21 pm

Yes I think that 2 toddlers fighting over a toy is very common. They are still learning the social skills needed to play as a group. I would explain that taking away the toy doesn't teach them how to work on the problem. I would first try to see if they can play together with the toy. If that doesn't work I offer anther toy for one to play with and then let them know they can trade toys in 5 minutes.

Linda perez

11/14/2018 02:12:47 pm

Yes I think this behavior is age appropriate because at this age they are in the no sharing stage .
The way I could explain is by saying that it’s normal for the child to do this because they don’t quite know how to share fully with there stuff .
Simply just making sure there is more then 1 phone in there so they won’t fight over it .

meseret link

11/14/2018 06:34:02 pm

A toddler is too young to understand fairness or sharing. Therefore fighting over toys is age appropriate. I would tell the parents that there is nothing to worry about. They will learn sharing as they get older. It is best to have a few different toys available to try and distract one or both children. That way they will both be happy.

fateme hosseini nejad

11/14/2018 06:38:53 pm

yes this is good model. The children are still learning social skills. In this situation, I would talk to the sub about this age group and let her know things that have worked for me with this age group in the past.

you have to get to their level and get them to play together.Stopping the fighting can be worked on in the moment and its not an excuse for their behavior because they are of their age but its normal to see this kind of behavior from toddlers.

Ginger Clapper

11/14/2018 08:19:43 pm

I agree that the behavior is appropriate for this age group as toddlers have not yet mastered the concept of sharing but with reinforcing good behavior and making sure there are enough toys for each child at this age, I would encourage the staff/parent that they will learn valuable social skills, such as sharing,as they mature and are molded by positive influences and training.

Robyn

11/14/2018 08:39:21 pm

I would say this behavior is completely normal for the toddler room. They are still learning the concept of sharing and to expect them to even understand why the phone got taken away in the end is not age appropriate. While it would be amazing if every classroom could have multiples of every toy this is just not practical. The concept of sharing should be taught at this age level you have to use more explanation as you are teaching them exactly what sharing is at this stage. Just telling them to share does nothing. It should be returned to the child who had it first and then the sub should have redirected the other child to a new activity.

Makayla

11/14/2018 09:09:04 pm

I think this is age appropriate because children need to learn to share at a young age otherwise they will just continue not to share and that will be harder to correct at an older age. I would tell the parents and coworkers that as well, learning to share at an early age is important. To prevent this from happening again maybe get another toy phone that way you have multiple for the children to play with that way they don't have to fight over one.

Brittney Shirey

11/15/2018 08:16:50 pm

After reading the toddler scenario, I think that is age appropriate because at such a young age you are learning the concept of sharing which takes times. At that age, it is normal for children to be possessive and not know how to share items/toys, they learn that over time and constant reminders and demonstrations about how to share with friends. Sometimes you can't just tell children they need to share they need to learn from time. I would tell the parent's that sharing comes over time and to just be consistent with them sharing and using different skills to remind them of sharing. To prevent from this situation happening again we can add another phone or have the children use timers that they can control to take turns with the phone.

Ratnamala Chakravorty

11/16/2018 12:44:57 pm

I think the reaction showed by the toddlers is age appropriate. This is common for children to behave this way when something so 'precious' is suddenly taken away from them. It is hard for them to acknowledge what just happened is because of their behavior and instead they start to exhibit strong negative emotions. In this situation I would talk to the substitute before taking any other actions because it was she who took the decision of putting the toy away. I will help her in improving the situation but not step into it directly. I will suggest her to talk to the children separately regarding the toy matter. Of course it is hard for the children to decide who is going to share first. So here comes the substitute's role in solving the dispute. She will give the toy to one according to her jurisdiction and ask the other to wait for his turn. That is the only condition that they can both play with the toy. In doing so she will also set a definite time for the first child who plays with the toy and ask him to hand over the toy with a smile to the second child who is waiting.

This is one solution, but often children act in another way and refuse to listen. Then the best solution is to separate them and put the toy away as a reminder to their behavior.

Charli Glidden

11/16/2018 01:11:05 pm

I think the behavior is to be expected of toddlers, as they are still learning how to share. The best option in this scenario would be to redirect the toddlers' attention. I would explain to mu co-worker that toddlers, unlike kindergarteners, are still at the very beginning of understanding the concept of sharing, and it will take time. To prevent this from happening again I would make sure there are multiples of the most popular toys in the classroom.

Cassandra Rains

11/17/2018 05:09:38 pm

This behavior is norm for a child this age. Children this age don't understand the concept of sharing, to teaching the children by asking the child to give it back to the person for a couple minutes then having the next child have it for a number of minutes. This could have been prevented by having more than toy phone at the center.

Courtney B Mccloskey

11/17/2018 10:20:51 pm

This is and is not okay. In my class i take the toy from the fighting children and give it to the child that had it first. And redirect the other child to play with something else instead. If neither student had the toy neither gets the toy individually. I then integrate them to both play with it by showing them first by answering the phone and then handing it to the other child. And encouraging the other child to give the phone to the other student as if the call was for them.

Alexandra Flores

11/18/2018 12:35:05 am

I think this behavior is age appropriate. Children this age group don't understand the concept of sharing, to teaching the children by asking the child to give it back to the person for a couple minutes then having the next child have it for a number of minutes. This could have been prevented by having more than toy phone at the center.

Daniele Pine

11/18/2018 03:54:19 pm

The behaviors are completely normal for toddlers. I would explain it by mentioning a redirecting each child to play with other appropriate aged toys or I would promote using words by having students ask if they could have the item after a appropriate time limit, with help from adult.

Alyssa Jo Rivera

11/18/2018 08:54:48 pm

I do believe the expectation and behavior is appropriate and fairly normal. The idea of sharing is still sometimes a foreign concept to young children and does not occur without some promoting. However, punishing both children for not understanding an unknown concept is not how I would manage this issue. If we want children to understand something, we need to lead by example and demonstrate it. I would show the children how to take turns and see if they follow with positive encouragement. If the disagreement continued, then redirecting is probably the best option. I would then try to include more understandable forms of sharing in my curriculum so that these kind of disagreements don't take place in future situations. For those observing such as co-workers or parents, I would explain that the children's brains are still developing and learning mental flexibility.

Kari Workman link

11/19/2018 10:56:00 am

I think this is normal behavior for toddlers, they have a really hard time sharing. I think that before I just take the toy away I would try to encourage them to share and see if I could facilitate helping them share so they are learning how to share and not being punished for not knowing how to share. That is our job is to teach. I would tell them that the consequences of being unable to share will lead to me taking it from both of them, but would give them several shots at it before any consequences are enforced

Yeimi

11/19/2018 03:39:21 pm

Titans don’t fully understand the concept of sharing I was up to us to teach them. Usually we have multiple of toys but when we don’t I usually try to have them take turns and the child who doesn’t have the toy initially wanted I try to distract with a different activity and engage more with them.

Maribel D Andrade

11/20/2018 07:04:19 pm

Yes, I believe this behavior is appropriate for that age. Toddlers are learning the concept of sharing and it is not easy for some of them to do that. I would explain this to a parent or co worker by telling them that this is something that they need to go through in order to learn the concept of doing it. What I would do to prevent this situation would be to leave the child who had the phone first with the phone and direct the child into another play area. Once the child with the play phone leaves it that when I can go get the phone and give it to the other child that wanted it.

lily

11/21/2018 12:49:58 pm

Its normal and the parents need to know that it's normal. I would let the child who had it first know that they can have it for another 5 minutes then they can share it with their friend. The child that wanted it can go somewhere else with a different toy until the five minutes is up

jessica

11/21/2018 09:54:35 pm

yes i think behavior and expectations are both age appropriate because kids are still learning.

jessica

11/21/2018 10:01:12 pm

yes the behavior and expectation are both age appopriate because kids are still learning.

Deanna

11/23/2018 11:56:43 am

I work with toddlers and when a few kids want the same to at the same time and start to fight. I go over and get down on their level and ask to see the toy and explain to them that this child will get the toy for a few minutes and I will watch the clock and when the time is up i will come over and the next child gets the toy for the same amount of time and that we will do this till everyone has a turn

Annie Li

11/23/2018 03:54:32 pm

Toddlers at this stage are developing words and concepts. It is important for teachers and assistants to stay consistent with teaching methods.

Kalab Holm

11/23/2018 08:54:33 pm

Toddlers are still trying to learn sharing,

Joslyn deRousse

11/26/2018 02:08:47 am

Behavior is normal. This is the age it's hard to share and learning the new skill present challenges. I don't agree to take it away but rather help the kids discuss and come to a solution

Brenda Figueroa

11/26/2018 09:16:52 am

1. Yes.
2. This is a stage where kids learn about ownership and what they want, it's perfectly normal.
3. I think sharing comes down to who was using the work first. Whoever had it first can still work with it, the other child needs to wait or find something else. The teacher can help them look for something.

Jessica Montes

11/26/2018 02:37:10 pm

1.Yes
2. It is definently normal for their age group because they're learning about what they want
3.They can take turns whoever had it first gets it and the teacher can set a timer on when to switch

11/26/2018 09:44:33 pm

1.Yes
2.I would explain saying that this is normal for kids their age and through these events kids can gradually learn to share and get along with each other.
3. These sort of events will probably continue to occur, but still there should probably be more than one of the same toy, so multiple kids can play with the same toy at the same time without fighting.

Katelyn Proudfoot

11/26/2018 10:18:03 pm

I think that this behavior is normal for the toddler age, however I think that the caretaker's response wasn't the best choice. From my personal experience, I have noticed that a lot of toddlers don't quite understand the concept of sharing yet. I think a better response would have been to ask the children to take turns with the phone, as well as directing them, and showing them how that can be accomplished. I would explain to this caretaker that the toddlers don't have the same understanding about sharing as the kindergarteners have, and they need to be shown what sharing means. In my opinion, this situation cannot be avoided. When there is a classroom of toddlers, it is a natural reaction for a child to want an item that another child is playing with. This situation will occur, and the best thing to do, is to help them through the situation, and view it as a learning experience.

Britny Derton

11/27/2018 08:46:15 pm

Yes I think this behavior is age-appropriate, every child is going to fight with another child over a toy. I would explain to the co-worker that this is very normal behavior, that the best way to handle it is to show them how to share the toy. If that doesn't work, then another way to handle the situation would be to find another toy phone so both children get a toy to play with and you can show them how to play phone and even 'talk' to each other on the phone.

nicole

11/28/2018 07:24:15 pm

there should be more then one toy phone in the toddler room

melissa

11/28/2018 08:43:31 pm

do more roll playing ,show the kids its nice to share,

Rebecca

11/28/2018 10:49:39 pm

Yes this is age appropriate. I would explain that it is normal in this age group because they haven't learned to share at this point. I would have went over and explained to them that the first child had the toy and help the other child find a different toy to play with. Or ask the other child if they had it for awhile if their friend could play with it for awhile. It would be nice to have multiples of favorite toys. Also just showing them and trying to teach them how to share.

jennifer

11/28/2018 11:19:06 pm

This is a perfect opportunity to explain to the toddlers that when they get a toy out, they take ownership of that toy. Talking about what it means to own something and respecting the toys that we own. The toddler that did not take the toy out will listen and learn the lesson. When one child owns a toy. they take care of it and give up ownership when they are done playing with it and return it to it's storage place. When the toy is returned, the other child can take ownership of it until he/she returns it to it's storage place. Sharing is encourages, however is not understood at this age. Taking turns is a concept that is learned as an infant and easily understood as a toddler. I would encourage the toddlers to take turns. If all else fails, the toy is returned to it's storage space and each child is redirected to find a different toy. If the children are too upset from the onset, positive redirection is the the best practice.

Dana

12/1/2018 05:28:13 pm

I would let the sub know there are better ways of handling those types of situations. Taking a toy away from one or both kids feels like a punishment and doesn't allow for understanding or empathy. It's kind of a lazy way of modeling good behavior. In that situations, I would have sat down with the children and explained in simple terms, "Johnny was playing with the toy, Sally. Can we take turns? Let's let Johnny have the toy for 10 seconds and then Sally, gets a turn. (Count to 10). Ok, now it's Sally's turn. Johnny can you give Sally a turn with the toy? (Count to 10) and so forth. They may not get to play with the toy very much, but allowing them to give up the toy willingly, gives them control and builds trust. And they might begin to understand the concept of sharing. And they get the toy often enough in 10 seconds that it feels like they have it for a long time. Helping kids to problem solve at a young age helps with long term critical thinking.

Sheryl Johnson

12/2/2018 06:01:58 pm

This is a very age appropriate reaction. I would explain to the parents this is normal behavior and that if they could work with their child at home as we would at the school it would be beneficial.

SARAH SWART

12/3/2018 01:48:13 pm

1.) As toddlers are at a stage where they are just learning the concept of sharing (and fighting it, as most all toddlers are blessed with a self-entitled concept of owning every object that suddenly becomes interesting to them), the two toddlers fighting over a toy is very common.
2.) We are born into infancy inherently selfish: satisfying one’s own needs. Toddlers are only beginning to learn to understand the feelings of others and apply it to their daily behaviors.
3.) As caregivers and Teachers it is our duty to model behaviors the toddlers should be learning and to teach these toddlers patience and sharing: “Billy, it looks like Sonja is currently playing with the phone. Let’s give Sonja 2 more minutes with the phone and then she will share it with you.” And as the caregiver one needs to follow up with the promise that Sonja gives up the phone (“Sonja, we promised to share the phone with Billy. After he is done playing with it, I am sure he would share it back with you.”) Setting this example and allowing the toddlers to learn that the toy does not disappear but is in fact interchangeable gives children the confidence that they can do it in the future themselves.

Sheena Brackett

12/4/2018 08:10:33 pm

Do you think this behavior or expectation is age-appropriate?
yes it is.

If so, how could you explain this to the parents/co-workers?
you could see if another toy will detract one child

Is there anything you can do to prevent this situation from happening again?
try and go about it a different way

Cassandra Bertsch link

12/4/2018 10:57:23 pm

Yes it is age appropriate. This type of behavior is going to happen again. this age group is still learning to play with others and learning to share and work together. Talking to and asking to use their words, and reinforcements. They will learn

Ami McGaughan

12/6/2018 02:55:37 pm

with our toddlers when kids are fighting with the same toy we try to find a similar toy and give to one of the children and let them know that when the other child is done with that toy that they can play with it

Alexis Stutsman

12/9/2018 08:39:39 am

This behavior is age appropriate. I would tell the co-worker that this is expected at this age and to avoid this reaction in the future maybe find another object that is similar and will allow both children to have a toy to play with

Serena Stanton-Jackson

12/10/2018 06:42:27 pm

I believe that this behavior is completely normal for children that age. I think having more than one of a toy is always needed. More often than not, if you give the children something else to do they will be content and then you can just return the toy to the floor where maybe someone will get upset and try to fight again or they will just play. I think that just redirecting the children always works out. Most toddlers don't really have the attention span to cry for one toy when there are plenty of other good ones out on the floor. I would tell the sub that she did the right thing but just needed to give both the kids something else to do.

Jennie Rondel

12/11/2018 12:09:09 pm

Totally normal for toddlers. There should be multiple toys however and a sharing policy in place or maybe toy sign-out process so kids know when it’s their time. Sharing is caring though and this would be a perfect opportunity to build some leadership skills in kids by getting one of them to kindly wait their turn.

Korry

12/11/2018 03:05:45 pm

Yes, the behavior is age appropriate. I would explain that toddlers are just learning to play by themselves and are capable of side by side play. Sharing will come a little bit later. I would just make sure I had a lot of the same toys or similar toys in the area.

Cheyanne

12/11/2018 03:22:31 pm

This is typical toddler behavior. Children this age may not yet know how to share or take turns. The response from the teacher may be an appropriate response for kinder aged kids but not for toddlers. Her expectations of the children were aimed too high for this age group.
One way to prevent this problem by occurring in the future is by providing more materials in the class for the children to play with. Once the children start fighting over a toy, try distraction first. Offer another toy to the children or start singing a song or ask one of the children to come help you with another task. Taking the toy away does not teach them any appropriate behavior and just causes them to cry.

Jordan Thompson link

12/11/2018 10:01:26 pm

This behavior is fairly normal and appropriate for toddlers. I would take to the sub and explain that they are still learning what it looks like to play with other children in environments outside of their home. I would also tell in her in the future if she sees this behavior, she might sit down with the children and either find a similar or different toy to promote side by side play first, then when they are more used to that idea they will learn sharing later down the line.

Jessie Pittman

12/13/2018 11:06:52 am

Working with one year olds even two years old I feel this is age appropriate. I do feel how she handled it was not in the best interest in the children. This is an opportunity for the children to work on their problem solving skills. The sub just solved it for them; robbing of them of the learning opportunity. At this age they’re still learning the ways of communication and problem solving skills.
Instead of taking the toy “solving the problem,” she should have had them agree to take turns. One, who had it first and Two is there compromise that can be made a similar toy or activity the other can do in the meantime. 9/10 the child will just move on. The child who had it first shall remain keeping the toy and the other child who was trying to steal the toy be redirected. There are many different solutions to this issue that can be both positive and effective but, taking the toy away is not. If she is going to take the toys way children are fighting over in all reality shell have the whole classsroom up on the walls.

Sydney Vahl

12/14/2018 08:05:28 am

I felt that this is an age appropriate reaction from the kids, but the teacher should have tried to redirect to another activity or toy, and not have kept the focus of the phone. I would say that toddlers are more centered on the "right now" of the moment and distraction can be a very useful tool! Providing more of the same toy may help, or just giving this teacher more experience with different ages.

Auzhane

12/15/2018 01:06:42 pm

teaching young children to share is very important. By taking the phone away, the children have learned nothing. Having the children communicate about the interaction would have been the best step. for example: direct the child in what should be said, "im still using this toy right now, but when i am done you can have a turn." and the redirect the other child to engage in another activity or toy until it is their turn.

Ana Maslovaric

12/15/2018 10:28:48 pm

I would explain that toddlers are in process of learning how to share. What I do in situations like that, I take a few minutes to play with them demonstrating sharing between 3 of us, praising them every time when they hand a toy to a friend, and when they take it back to enjoy short playing. It is a process of learning.. most of the times after a short sharing, they find interest to play with something else ( separately) or one of them.. but if it is a toy that everybody fights for I would probably hide it for some time, offering other toys to them to play with. Positive talk, reminding them that we share and why.. and demonstrating sharing, repeatedly is what they need at that age, so they may learn the skill of sharing

kyla barkley

12/16/2018 01:15:44 pm

It think this is normal behavior and that children. Children at this age will get in arguments over a toy there is nothing wrong with that.

Acacia Gohn

12/16/2018 06:29:14 pm

This is defiantly age appropriate behavior. Toddlers have not mastered sharing. If available I would have put out more than one toy phone to be played with. If not I would consider the temperament of the children involved and offer something else to the child I knew would be more accepting.

meredith Davey

12/16/2018 08:50:54 pm

It is true, if a hot button item is causing strife, we should remove it until we have enough for everyone, but kids this young don't get sharing yet. Right now they're just trying to form their own understanding of their surroundings. they will both think that cool item is "mine". that's not uncommon and it certainly isn't naughty or deserving of punishment.

Zoe V

12/18/2018 01:46:53 pm

This is normal behavior for a toddler, they are still in this stage of 'mine' and they haven't grasped sharing quite yet. You could explain this to parents and co-workers and let them know that this isn't uncommon and we are working alongside them to communicate their feelings. In order to prevent this situation one could show the benefits of sharing, give each kid an opportunity to play and provide more than one phone in the classroom so one has options. It may happen again, since this is still their learning stage but if you work along side kids to show that everyone can have a turn may get them to use that in future activities.

Anna Bychkova

12/23/2018 09:05:41 pm

Do you think this behavior or expectation is age-appropriate?
Expecting toddlers to share is an unreasonable expectation.

If so, how could you explain this to the parents/co-workers?
Toddlers have not yet begun to focus on social skills and cooperative play, but are exploring independently with little awareness of others' needs.

Is there anything you can do to prevent this situation from happening again?
Distract the empty handed child with another toy to divert their attention away from emotional distress.

Taitum Ranta

12/24/2018 01:54:20 pm

This behavior is totally normal for toddlers. I would explain to the sub that this behavior is normal because toddlers don't know how to share. I would explain that taking away the toy from both of them is harmful as well because all the kids will think is that they are getting punished for playing with a toy.

angelica

12/24/2018 03:39:52 pm

This behavior is normal for toddlers. They fight over stuff but in the end learn that they have to share and take turns. I would tell the sub not to worry because toddlers don't know how to share yet as to prevent this take out a game that everyone can play with

Abigail Pak

12/26/2018 11:08:46 pm

The behavior of two toddlers fighting over one toy is age-appropriate. Toddlers find it very hard to take turns, and some even want a toy that another toddler is playing with just because another toddler is playing with it. Also, when the sub takes away the toy, the toddlers crying and whining for the toy are also age-appropriate, even the whole class crying is age-appropriate. I would explain this to parents/co-workers by stating that toddlers find it very difficult to take turns, especially when it comes to one toy and sharing with each other. I would let them know that toddlers need help and guidance on how to deal with situations like these from adults. I would explain to each toddler saying that it is your turn and then after a couple minutes tell the toddler playing with the toy that now it is the other toddler's turn. There really is not much to do to prevent this situation from happening again at this age, maybe getting another toy phone.

Madison Hummel

12/27/2018 03:00:29 pm

The behavior and expectation are age appropriate, Sharing is a skill that toddlers are still learning and developing. When teaching them to share it should be done in an action and words way. Stop the fighting, figure out who had the toy first and give that toy to that child, and then help the other kid find another one of the same toy or something different to play with. To explain this to a co-worker or parent that saw the situation or heard about it you would just explain that they are still learning and we are working on sharing. To avoid this situation in the future, you can have multiple of the toy so they don't have to fight over one.

Shelbie Arteaga

12/27/2018 11:29:33 pm

This behavior is normal for this age group. I would inform the parents that playing sharing games at home with their child will help their child to understand and share easier. I would also try and distract the children or play with them and use the toy and then share it with each of them teaching them as I calm them down and share.

brkti mihtsintu

12/29/2018 01:50:45 am

Yes, this kind of behaviors happen to toddlers and its age expectation to happen. First, demonstrate sharing between the toddlers or teach them that they have to share showing examples. To prevent this from happening is that you have to inform the parents on how to deal with it.

Caitlyn Strid

12/29/2018 03:29:13 pm

Yes this behavior is normal for toddlers. At this age the idea of sharing is still being devoloped. they all have the “it’s mine” attitude. I generally think there should be multiple of each toy in the room so they can learn to play together and as a team.

Haily Campbell

12/29/2018 05:31:43 pm

Yes, this behavior is very normal for this age group, trying to sooth the children and maybe providing turns for them would be a better option than taking the toy away completely.

soledad

12/29/2018 09:19:54 pm

i would tell her shes doing just great and that its normal at this group age we need to show them sharing is caring

makaila hughes

12/30/2018 02:21:10 pm

i think this behavior is appropriate for this age group because children at this age are just learning how to share. to help the children from fussing you can move on to a new activity that they might be more interested in. or have a quiet place for them to sit down and think for a little bit.

janae leptich

12/30/2018 03:53:11 pm

this behavior is appropriate for this age group because the children need to learn to share with others, moving the child to a different activity can help stop the fussing. I would tell the sub she is doing a great job and its all normal. to prevent this situation from happening again you could ask for more of the same toy or let the child know that once he or she is done with they need to give to another child

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